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Rebecah Freeling is a behavior expert specializing in kids with impulsivity, emotional volatility, difficulty “listening,” ADHD, and aggression.
Rebecah owned and directed a successful early-childhood education center from 1999-2010. Today she works with parents and teachers. Rebecah received her education at Ohio State University and the Waldorf Institute of Michigan and is author of the forthcoming book Your Rules Are Dumb: How Parents Can Maintain Their Authority While Creating a Partnership With Their Spirited Child.
Rebecah is passionate about helping strong-willed, “spirited” kids grow in self-discipline and self-confidence. She also loves to help parents create environments that reflect their kids’ personalities and turn their weaknesses into strengths.
We had a similar issue with our daughter and searched for "parenting coach" on Yelp and BPN. There are not a lot of resources available (which is crazy given how many we found for sleep consulting and lactation consulting), but we ultimately settled on Wits End Parenting via Zoom. Rebecca was very helpful in giving us a few pointers and also helping us (me and my husband) to get aligned on how to respond. She also recommended a few parenting books that we still use. While our toddler continued to have tantrums regularly (and still does), we at least have better tools for handling them. Feel free to message me if you have any specific questions!
Respectfully, I just wanted to state that it's okay if 'wit's end' approach doesn't work for you and your child. I agree this coach has great compassion and great problemsolving ideas and has seen it all and that her 'take away' approach may work for some. But it's a fiction that the child has a choice. Her method is ultimately 'plan A' and that won't work with certain kids. I suggest the Lives in the Balance/Ross Greene approach for kids who tantrum and explode and have a high try for autonomy. They need more in put and also support toward self regulation.
Hi-- When my son was about your child's age, I was in your position--really in need of some coaching to help me help my boy (and keep me from pulling my hair out). So I'm happy to say that I found it! Her name is Rebecah Freeling and her business is called "Wit's End Parenting" (sound appropriate?). She genuinely loves the hard-to-handle, spirited, aggressive, all-around challenging kids; she gets them. And she has developed several strategies for how to work with your child in a way that satisfies everyone, while teaching them important self-management skills. Over the last few years I have worked intensively with her at different times, more recently to help me ween my 15-year-old off his addiction to his devices. That was extremely difficult-- lots of violent tantrums and acting out-- and she was virtually (literally, virtually) by my side the whole time. I highly recommend her. Her contact info: witsendparenting [at] gmail.com / website: witsendparenting.com
All the best wishes to you!
Definitely check out Rebecah Freeling at Wit's End Parenting. She is a parenting coach who specializes in spirited kids. I took her spirited children class through Bananas for free. Highly recommend that and they do it on a fairly regular basis so there might be one coming up soon. I found it helpful for my oldest when he was 5 and was really struggling. My husband took it after me too. It really helped me realize that there are other people going through this, accept my kid as he is and also think about how to creatively parent him into his best self.
Rebecah also does one on one parenting coaching that you can pay for. I have not done that but have thought about it. She has a facebook group which can be helpful. She will somewhat regularly do free one hour sessions on a particular topic too in which she does some teaching and then encourages you to sign up for her coaching.
I was experiencing challenges with my daughter a few years back. We had wonderful success working with Rebecah Freeling from Wits' End Parenting. While not a therapist, she is a specialist, and all I can say is that we got excellent results we were looking for.
Her contact info is:
Rebecah FreelingWits' End Parenting
rebecah [at] witsendparenting.com
It sounds like your focus is a solution for your child's anger, and if you’re open to a child behavior expert/counselor who is not a psychotherapist, I highly recommendRebecah Freeling. We were introduced to Rebecah through Kaiser are very pleased with our results. She gave us problem-solving tools to support our son’s emotional stability and everyone in our family learned tools to compromise and work as a team. Rebecah’s email is witsendparenting [at] gmail.com. Good luck!
Our family highly recommends Rebecah Freeling, the founder of wits end parenting. We really believe she helped set our family in a new direction and two years later we can happily say things are so much better than when we first reached out to. Just recently we referred her to another family who started seeing immediate results. We reached out when our spirited six-year-old was seemingly getting worse and worse and it was taking a toll on the whole family. Now we call her our family coach and we tell the kids that Rebecca helps us all treat each other more nicely. Just the other day our five-year-old said she missed Rebecah and wanted to go back! What was most helpful in seeing her was that she took the time to really observe our family and make recommendations targeted to specific behaviors.
She has a book called your rules are dumber how to maintain your parental authority without creating a partnership with your spirited child. You can find it on Amazon. Her phone number is 614-769-3563 and her email is rebecah [at] witsendparenting.com
I can very much relate to your post. We have 2 girls (7 and 3 years old). The youngest one sounds like your 2 year old. She dominated our family life and terrorized us all. She is super engergeic, intense, grabby, squirmy, and loud and really enjoys taking things apart. My husband and I are both physicians and we realized the importance of early intervention. We read as many books as we could find to deal with her behavior and tried various techniques, got her assessed by the public school district, Kaiser developmental pediatrician, speech and hearing testing. She is only three but she was much harder than our first child so I was convinced there was something wrong with her. Finally a friend suggested a parenting coach which is something I didn’t even realize existed. I did some research and found Rebeccah Freeling.
Rebeccah has been life saving for us. We are still in the middle of her her 12 session program but it has already made a big improvement for our family. She comes to your home and meets with you and your kids. She also has meetings in her office where we figure out solutions to our individualized problems. She works with you and your unique situation without being judgmental. She really enjoys these challenging children and knows how to handle them and gives you techniques to deal with every type of situation. So far we have corrected listening to us when we speak, Cleaning up dish plates after meals, our bedtime routine (it was too long and out of control), fights between siblings over toys and shared space, not destroying our property, and grabbing. She has many years of experience as a teacher and a parenting coach and I give her my highest recommendation. She is amazing and I’m so greatful for what she has done for our family. Life seems much more manageable now!
Feel free to email me andreaxdurant [at] gmail.com if you have any questions. happy to talk more
here is her info:
Wits' End Parenting
rebecah [at] witsendparenting.com
I've worked with Rebecah Freeling to learn more about savings options and I know she offers financial literacy classes. I highly recommend her. Her email is freelingandassociates [at] gmail.com,
Rebecah Freeling is a family coach and also a financial professional. She helped us with issues around behavior, but she also helped us figure out how to talk to our kids about money. Rebecah is very knowledgeable and understands how kids think and develop. I highly recommend her. We really enjoyed working with her.
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