Therapists for Depression
Depressed for 5 years - other ways of healing?April 2012
I have been depressed for the better part of 5 years. I've had psychotherapy, been on and off various antidepressants, etc... all of which have helped to some extent. I've read books as well. The depression has been from repeated traumatic events and I'm looking for other ways of healing. I've been interested in hypnotherapy, reiki, etc... and am looking for recommendations for these and other solutions. I just don't feel that talking about it is helpful anymore and I don't want to be on antidepressants anymore. I'm looking for something deeper. Any suggestions would be so helpful! looking for healing...
My heart goes out to you. Yes, it seems that at a certain point, talking has limited use. I have several recommendations that have helped me: 1) Recovery, Inc. 2) Reiki 3) EFT tapping. Meg
Since you are open to alternatives, let me strongly suggest homeopathy for what ails you. I credit homeopathy with helping me recover from a life-long depression. I know there are good remedies for PTSD, too. Good luck.
One of my neighbors is an EMDR therapist for the VA, working with PTSD veterans. Apparently EMDR is highly effective. If I hadn't met her, I never would have heard of it. Do your research, but here's a start: ''Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)1 is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy approach. It contains elements of many effective psychotherapies in structured protocols that are designed to maximize treatment effects. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, experiential, and body-centered therapies2.
EMDR psychotherapy is an information processing therapy and uses an eight phase approach to address the experiential contributors of a wide range of pathologies. It attends to the past experiences that have set the groundwork for pathology, the current situations that trigger dysfunctional emotions, beliefs and sensations, and the positive experience needed to enhance future adaptive behaviors and mental health. EMDR is further described here: http://www.emdr.com/general-information/what-is-emdr.html *** ...wishing you swift healing & complete recovery!
Hello, I know that you have tried multiple therapies but have you tried EMDR. It is an integration of cognitive, somatic, and emotive techniques. It was originally used with the PTSD of veterens. However, some of the main symptoms of PTSD include depression, anxiety, anger, and other emotional dysregulation. So it has expanded to the treatment of these issues. Andie
The 2 things that have helped me tremendously are EMDR and meditation-serious meditation-week long silent retreats. This may be hard for you to do, but EMDR is not, and it helped me so much. anon
Hi! I have had severe PTSD since I was a teen (I'm 40). I, too, found conventional talk therapies useless and went through several therapists with no success. Then a co-worker of my husbands, a child psychologist, mentioned that people with PTSD need to be in therapy with PTSD specialists. I started cognitive behavioral therapy. It's made a world of difference and is much more than just ''talk therapy.'' While I'm all for alternative healing solutions, too (I exercise, journal, do self care stuff), my experience is that if you have PTSD, you need to see a PTSD specialist. Good luck! also have PTSD
I've spent the past few years healing from PTSD and I've tried a variety of approaches. (I, too, realized that talk therapy wasn't doing anything for me --in a way it just made the depression worse, since I was always talking about my problems and ''what was wrong.'' The more I focused on the negative stuff, the worse I felt.) Two things I have found helpful are EMDR and somatic therapy (primarily Somatic Experiencing, developed by Peter Levine).. I've also seen a variety of alternative (some REALLY alternative) practitioners. If you'd like to talk more about this, please email me directly. kricodi
i have significant experience with depression and have also done therapy and drugs, as well as a number of alternative approaches. i will tell you what really makes the difference for me (you have likely heard it before): exercise.
i do know that making yourself exercise when you are depressed is next to impossible. so do yourself a favor and hire a trainer or commit with a friend... anything that will MAKE you get started. (maybe commit to running in a race on a certain date, or something with a goal to have in front of you.) though it may not fix everything, you will start feeling better very quickly and everything will seem more manageable. anon
Hi there, I wanted to suggest seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma therapy and uses EMDR. I have found it so much more helpful than talk therapy or meds. Just a few sessions have been incredibly helpful! I am sorry that you are having so much trouble. EMDR is excellent at addressing trauma and getting rid of it. I hope you find something that helps. Feel free to contact me if you have questions. angmartin
Hi, I had a beautiful stillborn baby last year and felt as though nothing was helping, certainly not talking any more. The first bit of healing I got was when I saw a woman I had previously seen for massage. Turns out she had been doing Shamanic training in South America. This is nothing I would have sought out, but she was a wonderful massage therapist, so I was game. Completly amazing and healing, and very moving. My husband has also benefitted tremendously. Her name is Marin Cassasa and she works mostly of San Franciso. Her number is (415) 513-8576. stephanie
I would highly recommend trying EMDR. There are many therapists locally that do it. Keep asking until you find someone/something that helps. Julie
It sounds like you would be a very good candidate for a treatment called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). This was originally developed for the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and is an incredibly efficient way to move past issues that have not resolved through other methods of treatment (like traditional talk therapy). Eye movements are used to trigger your brain's natural information processing mechanisms to help your mind ''digest'' traumatizing and adverse experiences so that you don't continue to respond to the memory of them in the same way. I wanted to reach out to you because you wrote that you were sick of just talking about the issues and the beauty of EMDR is that you don't have to verbalize everything all over again. It is such an efficient way to resolve traumas. I am a therapist and discovered EMDR after a friend experienced the profound results in her own therapy. It has changed my practice because of the closure I have seen it bring to so many people who have been struggling with the same issues for their entire adult lives and are frustrated and desperate because they feel stuck. You can find out more about it at emdria.org. Wendy
I was treated for PTSD (but not depression) for my inability to move on from surviving a violent marriage combined with death of friends during childhood. I did cognitive therapy for 7 years and still couldn't move on. What worked for me was EMDR, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing. I did this for about 4 sessions and I don't know why but it worked. I was finally able to let go of the shame and the survivors guilt that burdened me for so many years.
I did that 10 years ago and am no longer in therapy. I do, though, have to take steps to keep myself emotionally healthy. Currently I visit the acupuncturist monthly for my needle nap and recently began daily 30 minute mindful meditation. The meditation, btw, has had a much more powerful impact than I could have anticipated. Especially when it comes to my ability to remain calm when dealing with my 2 young high energy boys. Best of luck to you! Hope this helps!
Husband's debilitating depressionApril 2011
I have a 4 month old daughter. My husband has a major, long-term, ''treatment-resistant'' depression. He's tried every medication (the list is something like 30 drugs and combinations) including some MAOI's, one of which helped land him in the ER when I was 9 months pregnant. He has heard from everyone that he should exercise, but won't/isn't able to actually do something about it. Ditto with dietary changes, such as cutting down on the wine, coffee, etc. These things contribute to his being overweight, having sleep problems, snoring. He also suffers from migraines. He's been in therapy with his Psychiatrist but he doesn't seem to think it has done anything to help. Bottom line is he's depressed. Often to the point where he is in bed most of the day. I'm looking for some sort of support group for myself. Does anyone know of such a thing in the Bay Area? coping
Check with the National Alliance For Mental Health. They have s support group for depressives in San Francisco. According to the link there are also affiliates in Oakland and Albany. http://www.nami.org/template.cfm?section=your_local_nami What is positive about NAMI is that they are a group that encourages both medical and social management of mental illness. It also helps family members reduce their feelings of isolation, and advocates for better medical care and the governmental financial resources necessary to provide that care. anon
Not directly responsive to your question, but it struck me reading your post (about snoring and overweight and not wanting to exercise) that your husband may have sleep apnea, which can exacerbate depression by causing exhaustion.
Pharmacological treatment for depression is typically an adjunct to therapy, not a substitute for it. You didn't mention whether the prescribing psychiatrist is having regularly scheduled (at least weekly) sessions with him. Local NAMI chapter could be a place to look for support groups for yourself. Self-care could also include therapy for yourself.
It's a tough situation. Be as good to yourself as you possibly can, and this includes scheduling fun activities and seeing your friends. All the best to you! Ilene Diamond
Your situation sounds very difficult, especially with a new baby. I have to say that when I read about 30 medicines, drinking too much wine and coffee, and landing in the ER, it sounds very much like a classic case of addiction to me.
Perhaps you could get an addiction assessment for your husband, or go talk to the good folks at Merritt Peralta Institute, or take their free series of 4 Saturday am classes on the topic to learn more about addictive behaviors. Alcohol, pills, stimulants, and depression go hand-in-hand. For yourself, you could also try out several Al-Anon groups which you can find online at www.ncwsa.org. It is suggested a person go to several groups when starting, and you can bring your baby to many. Best of luck to you. Been There
Therapist (cognitive behavior?) for depressed maleDec 2010
I am looking for current recommendations for a therapist (preferably one who specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy) for my brother, a depressed and anxious adult. He needs someone who is laid back in personality (not pretentious) and able to really work with him and ask pressing questions. My brother is uncertain about what is triggering his long term depression and really needs help beyond surface level speculation. Concerned Sibling
I highly recommend Robert Gorden, LCSW. He has offices in Pinole and Berkeley. Over 25 yrs experienced. He is a colleague of mine. He's been my consultant on a number of cases and he's great-compassionate, smart---- Since he owns his own Employee Assitance Program which serves local hospitals, he has lots of experience w/ particular challenging folks like high powered MD, lawyers etc but does great with all. His number is 510-847-8830 monica
Action Oriented Psychiatrist/Therapist to help with husband's depressionSept 2010
We are looking for recommendations for psychiatrists (preferably female) in the Oakland/Berkeley area to help with my husband's depression. He has struggled with depression and taken medication in the past and feels that medication may also be the route to get him back on track this time. He would like to find someone who can give him concrete strategies to overcome his depression and regain his happiness. He wants to feel like he's accomplishing something and not just expressing his feelings with someone who's a good listener. Any recommendations are greatly appreciated. We have two very young children at home and I want them to know their daddy as a happy guy! Hoping for Happy again
I recommend you investigate Emotional Brain Training www.ebt.org It is based out of UCSF and has shifted my depression and anxiety tremendously. best wishes
I don't have a recommendation for a therapist, but Kaiser offers a class, open to non-members for a fee, that was a big help to me when I was suffering from depression. When I took it the focus was on cognitive behavioral therapy-- recognizing pattern of thinking that lead to negative feelings. The cost for 8 sessions is about the cost of 1 hour of a one-on-one therapist's time, and it is very self- help focused. Here's a description snipped from the Kaiser website:
Managing depression series Depression is common, real, and treatable. But it can be hard to recognize. It is often felt as a low mood, sadness, or irritability that won't go away. This series will explore the causes and effects of depression on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. You'll learn how to challenge negative thinking that contributes to depression, and how to reduce stress. You'll also get support for speaking up for yourself and for returning to the activities you enjoy. The skills learned in this course can help you manage moods long after the class is over. We recommend attending the Managing Depression Overview before taking this series. This class is open to the general public. Contact information (510) 752-1075 Carrie
My wife gets these postings and showed me your request for an action oriented therapist for your husband. I saw Dr. Fran Wickner on Solano Avenue, ''dragged in'' by my wife. I hadn't been to counseling before and was expecting someone to just sit there and look at me and make me come in every week. Instead Fran gave suggestions and homework that I could work on between our sessions and if I had a work meeting or other things happening we would reschedule our appointment or meet the next week. The flexibility and the fact that she interacted with me made me actually start looking forward to our sessions. She's on the Albany side Solano Avenue near the Berkeley border. 510-527-4011, don't know her email but she has a website. Husband helped by therapy
I can recommend Christine Benvenuto as a therapist for your husband who struggles with depression. It's so hard to watch someone you love battle depression and not living up to their emotional potential. I believe Christine can help! She is a very action-oriented therapist who is trained to teach mindfulness along with skills, both interpersonal and to help people respond to their emotions in productive ways. She is very engaging to be with and has worked successfully with many adults overcome debilitating depression. Her website, which I believe may be in-the-works, is christinebenvenuto.com. Her office is in Rockridge and phone number is 510-421-6766 I wish you and you family the best... supportive BPN reader
Therapist for general Adult DepressionApril 2009
I am looking for an intelligent well-rounded psychologist in Alameda or San Francisco county who specializes in adult depression and obsessive-compulsive disorders (these are self-diagnosed so they may not be correct). I would love suggestions of therapists as well as suggestions about how to support a loved one as they are going through counseling. Thanks! CJ
Dr. James Ballenger is an excellent therapist that specializes in adult depression. He practices both in SF and Oakland. He's results-oriented, compassionate, and has a lot of experience! His phone number is (415)385-5400 and email: jballengerphd [at] gmail.com Good Luck! Casey
I would recommend Orit Weksler MFT. She has experience working with people who struggle with depression, OCD and other pretty severe difficulties. She's creative, thoughtful and has a unique way of looking at things. Her office is on University Ave. in Berkeley and her phone # is: 510-295-2588 As for supporting a loved one who is going to counseling- you know, counseling isn't an illness, first thing would be to support their decision to go, then enduring listening to them as they talk endlessly about their therapist! good luck- Tish
I am not a therapist, but do know of someone I would recommend most highly. Jan Bowman: the very best. Intuitive, very committed, and compassionate. I also think she has sliding scale. 510 594 9569 ANON
I'm not sure if those issues are her specialty, but I have been seeing Dr. Lisa Lancaster and have found her extremely intelligent and well-rounded. I came to her with some pretty severe depression and have really improved. Her number is 510-841-2525. She has an office in Berkeley. anon
Psychiatrist for Depressed HusbandMarch 2009
My husband is a pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps kind of guy and is incredibly resistant to the idea of seeking help from other people. That said, I am looking for recommendations for a psychiatrist in the Berkeley or Walnut Creek area for him who is smart and logical and no-nonsense without being dismissive, but who can also work with a patient who is not going to be especially willing to be there, except to discuss medication options. My husband struggles with depression and has recently been drinking more--and more frequently. He agreed to cut out the alcohol and get some help. We have Blue Shield HMO. Trying to Help Him Help Himself
I highly recommend Dr. Richard Levine in Berkeley for your husband. Dr. Levine is extremely no nonsense, down to earth, humorous and irreverent. I am sure that your husband could deal with seeing him. He is not your typical psychiatrist at all. I have seen him for medication management for depression and always enjoy him. I don't usually post answers to advice requests, but this one just sounded like a perfect fit. Kristen
Hi, I am hoping someone can make a personal referral to a good psychiatrist, psychologist or therapist, preferably no further south than Berkeley. My mother, who is close to 80, has had a very bad year. She lost her husband, had several serious illnesses, and had to move to assisted living in Pinole. She has always been prone to depression (she is bipolar), she's physically and psychologically frail, and she's given up. I believe she would benefit from some talk therapy. (She is already on medication for depression and we don't want to put her on any more, at least not until we've tried talk therapy.) She is in a difficult financial situation at present so it needs to be one of the following who are on her insurance plan. (And I can't pay for her.)
I am looking for feedback for any of the people on this list. All the following are in Berkeley except for the first two, who I've had trouble getting in touch with: Elizabeth Milnes Ph.D. (# disconnected--Richmond); Richard Bloom Ph.D. (still waiting for return call--Pinole); Patricia Hart Ph.D.,; Susan Brand Ed.D,; Robert Dolgoff M.D.; Ronald Elson M.D.,; Peter Freedman M.D; Stuart Gold M.D. Bonnie Kahane Ph.D.; Peggy Kelly Ph.D.; Catherine Lee Ph.D.; Arlene Marcus Ph.D.; Joel Marcus M.D.; Christopher Michel M.D.; Patricia Miller Hart Ph.D.; Meshulam Plaves Ph.D.; Robert Roller M.D.; Rick Trautner M.D.; Richard C Unger M.D.; John Rosenberg M.D.
I know many of the people on the list are doctors rather than ''talk therapists'' but I have to work with the confines of her insurance (grr!!). I feel it is important to hook her up with someone good--she has had poor experiences with Dr. Stamford in Berkeley and Dr. Frank at Herrick Hospital (psychiatric wing).
Can anyone help? She's in bad shape. I hate to just pick someone off a list. lk
I have been seeing Dr. Lisa Lancaster (in Berkeley 510-841-2525) for about 6 months and have been extremely happy. I have suffered with depression for a number of years and am finally starting to make progress. I am in my 70s. anon
I'm not familiar with the particular doctors you're asking about, but I wanted to share my experience with my mother-in-law who has many similar issues (almost 80, physically frail, coping with recent losses, lifetime of depression). After almost half a century of on and off talk therapy, my MIL has just started seeing her first female therapist. It has made a HUGE difference for her to be talking to a woman. Apparently she's been self-editing in her therapy sessions for all these years, but now that she's seeing a woman she feels safe enough to really open up. Since your mother is of the same generation, she may have similar issues. Good luck!
I recommend very highly Dr. Patricia Hart. She is very experienced and is practicing psychologist for many years. She has an excellent reputation in the community. W
I've worked at Alta Bates in both the in-patient & out-patient Mental Health departments for over 12 years. I have lots of experience working with Robert Dolgoff M.D.; Joel Marcus M.D.; Christopher Michel M.D.; Rick Trautner M.D.; Richard C Unger M.D.; & John Rosenberg M.D. They are all very good practitioners & I would feel comfortable recommending a family member to any of them. Mom, RN
My wife and I saw Meshulam Plaves Ph.D. one time. While we did not end up choosing him, our experience was that he is very laid back and tries hard to listen. If I had to choose from these individuals, Meshulam is the one I would recommend. Anon
Of your list, I had a very bad experience with Stuart Gold about 10 years ago. He would not return phone calls when I started to have adverse interactions with the medications. Even when I left several messages for him telling him I was suicidal, he never returned any of my phone calls.
I've had good experiences with John Rosenberg, but he is not at all a ''talk'' therapist. I've heard good things about Joel Marcus, but don't know if he's taking new patients. I'm also not sure if John Rosenberg is.
If your mother is bipolar, she'll need psychiatric, pharmaceutical intervention first and foremost, then talk therapy and eldercare, grief support second. I'd try to find a good psychiatrist first (caution: it can take several months to get an initial appointment even after you've found someone who's taking new patients). In the meanwhile, I'd try to find some social support/grief counseling for your mother, even if it's not in the form of an actual therapist. Maybe her doctor, church or temple can suggest a grief support group. There are several organizations offering elder support services in the community, even for elders who speak foreign languages. Look through the yellow pages under ''Elder Care Services.'' You could also contact the Gray Panthers or AARP for other resources. Finally, there's a therapist, Monica Nowakowski-Carlson, who offers free support groups for caregivers of the elderly through Herrick Hospital. You might contact her for more resources and support for yourself. Good luck! Been there
We are looking for recommendations for a therapist or psychologist who contracts with Healthnet (MHN) to help my husband with his depression. My husband has seen a few people in the past, but felt that while they were good at listening to his issues, they didn't offer enough analysis or solutions to help him feel as though he was moving forward. He is particularly looking for a therapist to help him understand the causes of his depression and give him strategies to work through it. We're looking for someone in the general Oakland/ Berkeley vicinity. Anon
Paul Minsky, PhD is a great therapist. My husband went to him and really benefited from the therapy. He also does couple work. His number is 510 524-0700. He has an office across from Herrick Hospital and on Solano Ave. Good luck!
I would recommend Dr. Lisa Lancaster for anyone suffering from depression. She has done wonderful work with me over the last 6 months. I think she could help your husband. She is in Berkeley (510-841-2525) anon
Since it sounds like you are looking for actionable techniques to combat and overcome depression, I would encourage you to look for a therapist who primarily specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I also think ''Feeling Good'' by Dr. Burns and ''Mind Over Mood'' (forget the author but it's well known and easy to find) are a good supplement to therapy and something to keep your head above water while you look for the right therapist. This approach deals with debunking distorted thought patterns that lead to distorted emotional reactions. It requires some effort on the part of the patient but in my experience it has been a big help. I don't have anyone to recommend to you, unfortunately, but I hope this helps you find the right person and keep it together until things improve. Take good care. Montclair Momma
If your husband would benefit from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, whose basic premise is that the way you think influences how you feel and behave, then I might be a good match for him. I am interactive and use a lot of education about disorders in my practice, and accept MHN. I have an office in downtown Berkeley and would be happy to speak with him further about his needs and concerns. CBT is very good for anyone who is willing to examine the ways they're thinking and how it contributes to their moods. Anxiety and depression can both be ameliorated by challenging distorted thinking and replacing it with more balanced, rational thinking. I can also recommend the book, _Mind Over Mood_ by Padesky and Greenberger (and published by Guilford); this nifty self-help book helps people examine their thinking more logically and objectively. Lisa
My husband--in his early 40s--is suffering increasingly from depression and anxiety. He has a family history of depression. His mother committed suicide in her early 40's, when he was 14. He has not seen a therapist since that time, and he does not take any depression medication. For most of his adult life, he has been pretty happy. During the last year and a half , however, he had several blue periods, and recently it has gotten much worse. He has insomnia and horrible nightmares. I think in part he is struggling with the realization that he has now lived longer than his mother did, and he is full of grief and overwhelming sadness. He knows he needs help, but he is not able to do anything about it. Everything--job, home, marriage, parenting--has become very difficult for him. He finally agreed that he would see someone. I would appreciate recommendations for therapists (psychologists, psychiatrists? I don't even know what kind of person would be best). I would also appreciate suggestions for how I can best help him. I am sorry that it didn't fully hit me until just recently, how really depressed he is. I have been frustrated by his lack of responsiveness and communication, and I don't think I have been very supportive. I now see that he just can't cope with anything right now. Thanks for any help you can give us.
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Depression and anxiety are treated with Mental Health Services. I am a Kaiser member and found their programs very helpful with a combination of individual counseling, medication, informational workshops, and teaching of behavior-changing coping skills. I'm sure other medical plans have similar services available. Additionally, you can contact Care Services here on campus because they frequently publicize informational groups regarding dealing with depression or anxiety. Cynthia
I recommend Cheryl Jones as a therapist. (653-7374) I've suffered from depression for years and have gone in and out of counseling. She's the first therapist I've found who really seems able to zone in on where I get stuck and help me create concrete ways to overcome them, in addition to being empathetic and creating a space for me to express pent-up feelings. She can't prescribe meds, but she can work with your husband to figure out whether meds would help and his primary care physician probably could prescribe them. Alternatively, he could get a limited referral to a psychiatrist to get an appropriate prescription.
As for how to help your husband, my suggestion is to let him talk about how bad he feels and just hear it, rather than trying to tell him it's not that bad. Let him cry. But tell him how much you love him and what you love about him. Then spend time doing something with him. Also, encourage him to go to counseling and to take meds. I've taken Prozac and it has really helped. It does not make you feel unnatural or drugged; it just eliminates the lowest of the lows.
The first thing I would do is get a physical to rule out a physical cause, and especially have the thyroid checked out, since the symptoms you mention can be the result of a thyroid disorder. If there is no physical cause, then I would see a psychiatrist. They specialize in medicines for depression and anxiety.
I have had a similar experience, but with myself, not a spouse. I have a family history of depression, suicides and insomnia, and when I turned 40 my own experience with depression/anxiety/insomnia began. It sounds from your description like your husband may need medication, that is something he would need to discuss with a professional (family physician, or psychiatrist) but from my experience, medication is not necessarily a solution, although it can be a great help as an adjunct to therapy, especially if the situation has gotten to the point where he is having difficulty functioning.
There are herbal medications that some people find useful who don't trust anti-depressants and such. I personally didn't have a good experience with the herbal route, but tried a lot of things because I had an aversion to using the mainstream medications. Now I think and early combination of the right therapy and medications could have saved me a couple of years of suffering (as well as my family). A doctor who is willing to work with both kinds of medications might be a good choice if you are interested in trying herbs and such.
For me the important thing is getting back as soon as possible to feeling more stable and in control of life, so that the therapy can happen. It's very hard to be in therapy when you just want to withdraw and are sleep deprived. The most helpful thing I've done so far for myself is EMDR therapy, and I'd hightly recommend it especially if you think earlier traumatic experiences are part of the picture. I am MUCH better since I began this kind of therapy. I know of other people who have had the same experience. A good psychologist who does EMDR as part of therapy is what has worked well for me. As for what you can do, I know it's HARD to live with someone who's going through this, but it can also bring you closer if he gets the right kind of help. Patience, understanding, compassion. He will not be able to be present in the marriage (and as a parent) until he gets help. It may take a while. My husband learned to be patient and giving with me while I was going through this, and now I appreciate him ever so much more. Our relationship has deepened. We're both better for the experience. Rebecca
I'm not a counselor, but your message really touched me and I'd like to help, if only to offer my support and friendship. My understanding is that your husband would need to see a psychiatrist in order to get an anti-depressant prescription (he needs to be diagnosed with depression first and other types of therapists aren't allowed to prescribe medicine). It would really help him to see a psychotherapist for ongoing therapy. I strongly encourage you to go with him to his appointments, if he's open to this, so that you can understand how depression breaks down your ability to cope, and ultimately find ways to help him help himself.
My husband was diagnosed with attention deficit disorder last year (at age 46). It's a life long disease that he's had since he was born. He has lived his whole life with people telling him he's irresponsible and lazy and that he needs to focus (I have been one of those people, so I know your plight of not being understanding at first). We started with a diagnosis from a psychiatrist, who put my husband on a drug similar to Ritalin, and are now seeing a psychotherapist for ongoing counseling to help us learn how to manage his ADD.
I'd be happy to talk with you offline. We've gone to see a couple of different psychotherapists and I can make some recommendations, if you like. I know it must have been hard for you to reach out to this board, and I'm glad you did! - Sue
Concerning treatment of depression. I strongly recommend Susan Drager. She is a LCSW but has connections with excellent psychiatrists if medication is in order. I have recommended her to a friend for her daughter and they are very satisfied. She sees patients at offices in Oakland or Walnut Creek. Her phone is 510 763 1502. Suzanne
I have been using a wonderful and highly recommended psychiatrist, who is really a 'mensch' - Richard Levine, MD for many years for familial depression. He's very up to date on the latest treatments, both prescription and therapeutic, is wonderfully compassionate, and has been an absolute lifesaver. I've sent several friends, all who have been very pleased. His phone is 540-1746. His receptionist's name is Claudia. His office is at 1749 MLK between Francisco and Delaware. They do bill insurance Hope this helps. Joan