Therapist for Co-Parenting
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- Therapist for co-parenting after divorce
- Therapist for co-parenting with ex's girlfriend
- Co-parenting counselor for shared custody with dad's second wife
- Co-parent counselor for separate households
- Court has recommended co-parenting classes
- My ex and i need some help co parenting
- MFT to assist with our co-parenting issues
I am looking for a recommendation for a therapist who is particularly skilled in the area of co-parenting after divorce. I need someone covered by my UC insurance (Optum - formerly United Behavioral Health), and someone in Contra Costa County (preferably Walnut Creek/Lamorinda).
Recently divorced, the co-parenting challenges were a huge part of the reason for our divorce. Divorce, of course, hasn't changed any of those challenges. We still disagree about most things. Our daughter is 15 and I am finding I really need to work with someone who can not only understand the challenges, but gently guide me to be able to work through the challenges. My ex and I disagree on 90- 95% of parenting issues (I'm bad cop, he's good cop) and it was, and remains, extraordinarily challenging and frustrating to co-parent.
Related is that our daughter is extremely strong-willed and likes to be in control. She has always played her dad and me against each other. She also refuses to go to therapy (she went briefly last spring and quit after a few months).
And finally, my ex's attitude is that he gets to parent how he wants at his home and I get to parent how I want at my home, and ''that is divorce.''
Thanks. need guidance, not just an ear...
I highly recommend Lucia Grauman; she is compassionate, very intelligent, and very good at dealing with relationship issues. Besides, she is a pleasure to work with. Both my sister and my aunt have been counseled by her, and the improvements have been consistent and permanent. Her office is in Rockridge, and all her contact info is in her site: http://luciagrauman.com/ Angie
This is going to sound harsh but as someone with lots of experience in this arena, I feel it is true. You are not ever going to get your ex husband to agree with ''your'' rules now that you are divorced.
He will do what he thinks is ok and you will do what you think is ok and ya know what? Your daughter will figure it out. Call her on the stuff she is doing that plays the two of you against each other. Clearly state ''this is how we do it here.'' Don't bad mouth dad but rather say ''he and I don't agree of this issue''
You do need to let this go. You have no control over him or what he does anymore (barring anything considered truly negligent....) anon
Hi. I am looking for a good therapist (Berkeley/Oakland area) for myself, my daughter's father and his girlfriend. My daughter is 5.5 years old, and her dad and I have been divorced for about 3 years. We have an ok relationship, and communicate frequently about our daughter. She splits her time between our homes. I am seeking a third party to help with the relationship of co-parenting and how his girlfriend fits the picture. I need a strong listener and problem-solver. I appreciate your help. Thanks! Frustrated Mom
I don't think you could do better than Dr. Lancaster. She has been tremendously helpful in getting my husband and I to work out some pretty difficult child-raising issues. She is warm, supportive, and best of all, effective. anon
Hi there, I have had great experience with Fran Wickner and feel great about recommending her work. She has been in the area for 25 years and is highly esteemed by her colleagues as the strong listener and problem solver your family needs in this difficult situation. Her phone number is 510-527-4011 and her website is: www.franwickner.com Sara
I can highly recommend Alexis Adorador, MFT. Her practice is based in North Berkeley, and I think she would be very well suited to fit the specifics of the type of therapist that you state you're looking for. To find out more about her and to get her contact information, you can go to her website: www.alexisadorador.com Craig
Looking for a co-parent counselor in the Pinole-Ricmond - Berkeley area. I find myself in a bad situation with my son's absentee dad and his controlling second wife. She has pushed him into court with me after 8 years of him not being a much of a participatory dad, my son is 8. I was ignorant and did not protect myself legally when my son was born. My son seems ok but this is all new to me and having to now share custody and some decision making after always doing it solo is really tough. What makes it harder is she is doing all the communication as him through his email - I have proof - so there is no communication between me and my son's dad. I realize this is a different scenario as there was no marriage or relationship to begin with, but I really want to know if others have been in this situation and I want to do right by my son. Any advice out there or counselor recommendations would be most appreciated. Tired of being angry
There are some things that are basic to a co-parenting relationship, and one of these is communication -- with the co-parent, and not primarily the co-parent's spouse. I would recommend this: face-to-face communication with your son's Dad and a mediator, asking that at least the first meeting occur with just the Dad. Your son's Dad's wife is not a parent in this situation. A mediator who also has a therapist function would probably be best, given the dynamic with the wife. She seems intent either on upholding what she perceives as her husband's rights or becoming a mother to your child, which is overstepping an important boundary. There are big emotional issues involved, so I would recommend Eva Herzer (510-526-5146) or Larry Rosen (http://www.throughunderstanding.com), who are both understanding and insightful mediators and expert on the law. divorced mom
I highly recommend Yvonne Mansell(510) 528-9551 in Albany. Co- parenting is one of her areas of specialization. She is a gifted and warm therapist, and I have no doubt she can help. Best wishes to you. Marie
Looking for a good co-parent counselor for parents of a 3 year old, separate households since birth, in the Berkeley/Oakland or Lamorinda area, any suggestions? anon
Contact Julia Wallace at http://juliawallace.com/ Julia has been a great help to not only my wife and I, but several of our friends as well. We have been seeing her for several years, whenever we have a communication breakdown or just need the input and guidance of a neutral 3rdparty. Julia is also co-parenting, so she really gets what you are experiencing. She's awesome. She can also provide referrals to counselors in your exact area, if you are unable to travel to see her in the city. anon
After 2 mediation sessions in 2 years, the court is now recommending that the father of my child and I go to co- parenting classes. Having a hard time finding local recommendations. I am located in El Cerrito and the father is in Richmond. We share a 4 1/2 year old daughter. Stalemate
I know a highly renowned therapist who works not only with kids (older than your daughter), but also quite brilliantly with couples to support their kids. His name is Lenny Levis and he works out of Berkeley: My husband and I have worked with him to support our son - very successfully. 5105405052 I am also very familiar with the work of an amazing woman whom I've consulted on parenting issues as well as personal: Mary Duryee. I have heard from many people that she does brilliant work with couples around parenting and mediation, and she knows the court processes very well. The problem is that she works out of Oakland. I think her assistance is totally worth the drive, but your schedule may not be able to accommodate this extra mileage. Her number is 510.839.7080 ANON
I'm sure other people will recommend them as well, but Kids Turn (kidsturn.org) offers co-parenting classes. You might have to wait a couple of months for one that fits your schedule, but I found the classes to be really helpful. Just being in the same room with other divorced parents was really useful, and Kids Turn gives some good tips and tricks about how to make things go more smoothly. Kids go to classes too -- one of my daughters found the class useful, but the other one didn't get much out of it. anon
Hi, My ex and i need some help co parenting. Does anyone have recommendations for therapists that work with families in this way? We need someone in the South bay, or the Peninsula. Thanks
Hi, I can recommend a great Parenting consultant expert. Here is his info: Matthew Van Lokeren mvanlokeren [at] yahoo.com 415 203 7293 Hope it helps, Ana
I am looking for recommendations for a MFT to assist my child's father and I with our co-parenting issues. Ideally I'm looking for a female practitioner in the Alameda/Oakland/Berkeley area who is compassionate and is skilled in helping parents better their communication. Thank you. nomorebabydaddydrama
I've been working with Dr. Marlene Winell for a while now and have come to admire her skill greatly. She is a compassionate, honest, intelligent and insightful woman with a breadth of knowledge about human development and communication skills. She has made a profound impact in my husband and I's relationship and I recommend her to anyone seeking help from a psychologist. She's open to new clients and you can contact her at mwinell [at] gmail.com. Hope it helps!! H.
I would recommend that you call Christy Shepard. Christy is a MFT therapist with offices in Berkeley and San Francisco, phone # 415-864-5186. She is highly skilled with couples, related communication issues and all sorts of parenting concerns. anon
I've been working with Dr. Marlene Winell for a while now and have come to admire her skill greatly. She is a compassionate, honest, intelligent and insightful woman with a breadth of knowledge about human development and communication skills. She has made a profound impact in my husband and I's relationship and I recommend her to anyone seeking help from a psychologist. She's open to new clients and you can contact her at mwinell [at] gmail.com. Hope it helps!! Helen