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  • Need a solo getaway

    Jan 16, 2024

    I’m in desperate need of a few days away by myself and would love to hear recommendations. I can’t spend a ton of money but don’t need anything fancy. I hope not to drive more than a few hours from the East Bay, I’m looking for a beautiful place with a comfortable bed and healthy whole food available. Bonus if there’s a spa or yoga or anything else to help me relax. Thanks in advance!

    Orr Hot Springs - My go-to place for relaxing. 

    here's a couple suggestions:

    https://www.mountmadonna.org/programs-retreats/personal-retreats

    https://vajrapani.org/private-retreats/

    Mount Madonna has yoga classes and a wellness center which offers massages, etc.

    Vajrapani is more "create your own adventure", with beautiful silent private cabins set in nature and yummy food delivered. 

    I've gone to both and can highly recommend them. 

    Hope you find the peace and relaxation you seek. 

    Highly recommend Calistoga. There are a variety of hotels at varying price points that have the hot/warm mineral pools. The most affordable one I've stayed at is Calistoga Spa Hot Springs. They don't have food onsite tho. There are many great and healthy restaurants in town and the hotel has small kitchens so you could cook if desired (there is a good grocery store in town). Slightly more expensive is Dr Wilkinsons which has had a lovely makeover and a very healthy restaurant on site (along with a spa). Indian Springs is the best but $$$. Calistoga feels quite safe and I have no qualms when I'm walking around by myself. Easy drive too! 

  • I’ll soon be divorced from my partner of 25 years. We traveled a great deal together, and I hope to do more on my own after my youngest goes to college, but I have never traveled abroad alone. I would love to hear your advice for solo travel, especially from middle-aged women of color. While I’ve never traveled with a tour group, I would consider it if it’s a good match for my new stage of life (ideally some middle-aged, not mainly couples, etc.). Any recommendations? Thanks for sharing! 

    I was single until my late 30s and traveled places like Kathmandu and Shanghai by myself with wonderful results.  But I did have to build my confidence and solo travel skills.  At first I was afraid to make long car trips by myself!  Each time I made a stretch, I was then able take on more the next trip.  I just finished reading _The Catch Me if You Can:  One Woman's Journey to Every Country in the World_ by Jessica Nabongo.  Being a woman and a person of color is addressed in her text.  She is very encouraging!  (https://thecatchmeifyoucan.com)  I love travel books and blogs.  They encourage me to keep exploring and growing.  Best wishes for exciting new chapters in your life!

    I recently went to Galapagos on my own, and had a great time. I was on a small expedition cruise that offered a “no single supplement” deal, and as such there were tons of solo travelers so you might want to look for that kind of offer if you do go the tour group route. I also went to Cuba on my own some years ago. It was a small group and I was the only solo traveler, but everyone was very welcoming. That’s the only group travel I’ve ever done in my life, but like you, I’m cautiously open to doing more after two amazing experiences. 

    There are tour groups for every demographic and every budget - that’s a great first step. Have fun doing the research! Taking a class or volunteering somewhere could also be fun and offer community. If you ask around you may find friends who’d love to join you. You can travel solo but arrange for home stays, so you’re not really alone. Or there are travel adventures that tend to bring people together - like trekking in Peru or doing the Camino in Spain, etc, even if you’re on your own - you’re likely to be chatting the whole time. Good luck!

    There is a Face Book Group Solo Women Travelers, and its companion group Solo Women Travelers Over 40. The women of all ages, shapes, and races travel to amazing places. One older woman just posted about her motor cycle trip through West Africa with a small group. One can ask questions, get support and recommendations. Actually many of the younger women have more anxiety about stepping out on their own than us older women. Try it.

    This isn't for everyone, but it was great for me so I'll go ahead and share (FWIW).  I recently took my teen on a service trip to Quito, Ecuador, arranged with an excellent program (https://www.volunteerhq.org/) that cost far less than others I researched.  We stayed in what I'd call a hostel (private room but shared bath) and had community meals with the other volunteers, most who were there alone.  My son does not socialize, so I was able to connect with the others to do local outings after our volunteer "work" ended each day. Those that stayed longer (we had only 1 week) did lots of interesting weekend trips together.  While most of the travelers were college students, the program is for everybody and folks at IVHQ would be happy to help you find trips with people closer to your age.  And they have programs much all around the world.

    Happy travels!!

  • Hello! I’m hoping to take a 1-2 day solo trip in late December/early January within 2 hours driving distance of Oakland as a way to reflect and practice being along from my first child before giving birth to baby #2 in a few months, and would love recommendations. 
     

    Here’s what I’m looking for:

    -beautiful location/scenery, ideally near a body of water or forest 

    -has delicious food either on site or nearby (I’d love a bed and breakfast or charming hotel!)

    -ideally lodging has a pool and outdoor space 

    -max two hours driving distance (not too remote as I’ll be 24-26 weeks pregnant and want to be near hospitals should anything go wrong)

    -I’m hoping to rest, read, journal, eat delicious food, and maybe go for some easy hikes 

    If you have recommendations for couples trips, I’ll take those too! Thank you. 

    I stayed at Olena House at Point Reyes once and it was a lovely, charming solo retreat for a mom. The gardens were beautiful but would be nicer in the summer maybe. Food in the area was good, along with some really excellent bakeries.  

    Monterey sounds perfect for this! Don’t have a specific option but there are a bunch of cute bed and breakfasts there.

    When I was pregnant with my first, I did a babymoon in Calistoga. I love hot tubs and missed being able to go in them, so I found a place that had a mineral pool that was set to 90 degrees so that I could float around :-) The town is very cute with lots of good food and the surrounding area is beautiful.

    Asilomar (in Pacific Grove, just south of Monterey) may be just what you are looking for. It's a conference center that consists of a campus of buildings, including many lodging buildings, a social hall, a dining hall, and a chapel. It's a naturalistic setting and you will often see deer on the conference grounds. There is a boardwalk that takes you across the dunes to Asilomar State Beach, which lovely. More boardwalk loops through the dunes. Some of the rooms have fireplaces, and some of the lodging buildings have common areas. What they don't have is TVs in the rooms, because it's not that kind of place. The food at the dining hall is good. Tables seat 8, I think, so you'll have opportunities to meet people at meals. There are also great restaurants in the area (Passionfish, Red House, and Crystal Fish are favorites). The social hall has a big fireplace, pool, maybe ping-pong, and open jigsaw puzzles.

    Sadly, I think the pool is closed at this time of year. But other than that, I think it fits your asks.

    It’s slightly outside the 2 hour window but Asilomar in Pacific Grove meets most of your criteria. Beautiful space right next to the ocean and sand dunes. It’s used as a conference grounds a lot, but they also book rooms like a hotel does. Rooms are NOT fancy and no TV but the lodge is gorgeous and they do have some sort of cafeteria (plus easy access to the yummy food of Monterey). Get a room with a fireplace if you can! Designed by Julia Morgan. They have a pool but you won’t want to use it in winter, if it’s even open this time of year. 

    I did a women's writing retreat at the Green Gulch Zen Center for this purpose and had a great experience. Got lots of solo time.

    Sonoma Mission Inn?  https://www.fairmont.com/sonoma/
    Near Jack London State Park for relatively easy walking.
     

    Indian Springs in Calistoga - great hiking in the area, lovely comfy rooms, access to the (famously wonderful) hot springs pool (and it's warm - not so hot that you can't have a float while pregnant). Maybe even get a prenatal massage while you're there. 

    I love the area around Pt. Reyes and Inverness, which is about an hour away. In winter it's all lovely and foggy and gray, perfect for sitting in front of a fire and relaxing. There is the ocean, which holds many delights, and there is also Tomales Bay, surrounded by flat woodsy walking trails.  There's an old dairy farm at Pierce Point that's fun to explore, and the little town of Pt. Reyes Station is picturesque and has cute little shops - a great way to while away an afternoon. And there are food options galore, from roadside oysters at Tony's or Hog Farm, to picnic table sandwich places (Side Street Kitchen!)  to nice restaurants (Saltwater Oyster Depot, Olema House, NIck's Cove)  to a very nice little grocery store in Pt. Reyes for fruit, cheese, snacks, etc.

    Places to stay ... Close to Pt. Reyes is Olema House. I haven't stayed there but it looks beautiful and it has a restaurant. Over on Tomales Bay there is Nick's Cove - the rooms look cosy and delightful and it has a good restaurant right on the water, plus there are a bunch of oyster places down the road. Try the clam chowder at Tony's - yum!  Across the bay from there, in Inverness, is Tomales Bay Resort which is more like a casual roadside motel, not a resort so much. But last year we stayed in a room there that had a fireplace and a view of the bay - very comfortable and enjoyable. I think they have a restaurant (it was closed when we were there last year.).

    If you drive north another 30 minutes there is Bodega Bay, with several lodging options. We stayed at Bodega Bay Lodge a few months ago - it was on the expensive side but it is right on the bay, has beautiful grounds, has a heated outdoor swimming pool and a decent restaurant. There are several other restaurants around Bodega Bay - good food options including wonderful walk-up chowder places down by the marina. There's not a lot to do in Bodega Bay aside from strolling along the bay, which is very nice, but if you really just want to sit and look at beautiful scenery it's a good place for that.

    Have fun!!

    It's pricey, but check out Boon hotel in Guerneville. You can walk/bike to restaurants and a beautiful redwood grove, and onsite they have a pool, nice outdoor space, breakfast delivered to your room, comfy places to read and lounge, and a spa (though I haven't tried it out). Close by and an easy getaway! The one downside is the cell reception is poor (there is WiFi).

    Check out Timber Cove hotel in Jenner! It’s gorgeous and very serene/relaxing. The beds are SO comfortable, too. There are a lot of beaches in the area, and I’m sure plenty of beautiful hikes. The restaurant is good, too. 
    I just had my second child a month ago, and love this idea- wish I had done something similar. Good luck! 

    I recommend going to Point Reyes, and staying in one of the B&Bs in Inverness.  It's about an hour drive from Oakland, and you have lots of options for hiking and food.  You are also close to the ocean! 

    Calistoga is a lovely get away. Congratulations and enjoy!

    If it were me, I'd head south to the Monterey Peninsula - Pacific Grove, Carmel, Monterey - all about 2 hours away, by the beautiful Pacific Ocean, good food, lots of B&B's and quaint hotels and good walking, plus there is a real hospital in Monterey should any need arise. Enjoy!

    Check out Guerneville, CA! 

    It's my happy place: being in Sonoma County means good food and wine, it's near the Russian River, there are hiking trails, and multiple lodging options. 

    I got married there and I plan to have my babymoon there next week. Call me obsessed hahahaa

    I did this at the Inn at the Presidio and it was very nice. Lots of outdoor space to hike and sit in the sun, and a beautiful view of the bay. But it's just in San Francisco, so maybe not far enough! It was earlier in the pandemic, so I got delivery/takeout for all my meals.

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Adventure getaway for Mom

June 2003

I am a working mom who gets to take a trip in early September each year after my husband returns from his ''boys'' adventure. Usually it is to a spa or some other tame, expensive location for a few days with a girlfriend. This time, I'm looking for a challenge and some thrills. Any advice on adventure trips not too far from the bay area? Ideally I'd like to be able to drive to this place (so maybe 3-5 hours max) and spend a few nights somewhere. I am athletic and outdoorsy, so seeking a trip that would challenge and invigorate me -- maybe some sort of hiking, rafting, horseback riding combo? Any ideas would be most welcome! Thanks. Jennifer


Hi. I think you would have a blast in the Gold Country in California. It's kayaking, rafting hq. around here. At least that's what I was told by a pro rafter/kayaker. Not only is there good rapids, but the scenery is beautiful. You could go hiking, or hang out. It's truly part of the wild west. It's affordable and if you don't like what you see, you can go East, West, North, or South and still have a great time. If you belong to AAA, you can ask them for your very own awesome adventure getaway. Oregon is also a great place to go for adventure. Don't forget Utah! If you haven't been to Utah, you don't know what you are missing. I loved Brice Canyon, and the Tri Corners area. The most important thing is to go out and HAVE A BLAST!! beth kagel

 


Weekend of solitude for mom

April 2003

I'm looking for a place to get away from everything for two days. I have looked into Wilbur Hot Springs, and it looks great. But I want to go somewhere where I won't have to talk to anyone and no one will talk to me. I envision some sort of retreat in the woods where I can go on a hike, read a book, sit by the river, and be alone for a while. It would have to be a weekend because my husband will need to be available to watch the kids, and I'm worried that popular retreats will be too busy. I'm yearning for complete quiet. I'd love to hear your suggestions.
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Recommendations received:

  • Green Gulch Zen Center (3)
  • Harbin Hot Springs
  • Mendocino
  • Orr Hot Springs
  • Spirit Rock
  • Steep Ravine Campground
  • Wilbur Hot Springs (2)

    Other ideas:

    Vacationing alone sounds great! I have a friend who has spent time in Desolation Wilderness by herself (and her dog). It's on the way to South Lake Tahoe past Strawberry, in the mountains before you go into the Tahoe Basin. It's a National Forest. There are places to stay on the way and there is a great river along the road (I can't rememeber the name of it). I don't know if you can camp there, but you can also stay at nearby hotels and go there for day hikes. There is Echo Lake, Lake Aloha and others. It's high desert. I've been there in July and it can be warm to hot in the day and chilly to downright cold at night. I thought it was a great place to be private and alone in nature. You might check with the City of Berkeley as they have a camp at Echo Lake. You can sometimes rent a tent cabin for the night before summer camp actually starts. Have fun! anon