Family Therapists for Teens & Parents

Parent Q&A

Need Parenting Help Dec 11, 2019 (5 responses below)
Need therapist/counselor for mom/teen communication Nov 13, 2018 (1 responses below)
Family Therapist for Parents and Teen Daughter Mar 13, 2017 (1 responses below)
  • Need Parenting Help

    (5 replies)

    We are parents of an adopted 12 year old girl. Her behavior at home has gotten worse. We are having a lot of power struggles and need help figuring out the best way to take care of her so are not always fighting. We are looking for a therapist that knows a lot about adopted kids and who understands the adolescent mind. The therapist is for us not for our daughter.

    RE: Need Parenting Help ()

    Laine Demetria, LMFT, helped me to understand how to parent my adopted teenage son. She herself has adopted children. You can reach her at  (510) 703-4766.

    Good luck!

    RE: Need Parenting Help ()

    Hi I highly recommend Stacy Outten in Oakland. We spent over a year working with her (just my husband and me, our boys not willing to engage in therapy). She was hugely helpful in getting us on the same page and really holding us accountable. We’ve worked with lots of kind people but Stacy was the one who helped us make meaningful change. Highly recommend.

    RE: Need Parenting Help ()

    Hi, I know it can be tough, I am also the parent of 2 adopted girls. One 7 and one almost 12.  I see Judy Benziger-Haynes, MSW (925-683-3274) in Lafayette to get parenting tips.  She is absolutely wonderful. And my younger daughter sees DR Maria Chiaia on College Avenue for play therapy. (510-654-3281) One of the best things that my older daughter did for 2 years was join a therapist lead arts and crafts group for adopted girls.  Unfortunately the therapist retired.  I would research to see if anyone else is doing this. 

  • My 14 year old daughter and I have hit a major communication roadblock.  She's often rude, dismissive, and increasingly uncommunicative with me. I know some of this is normal separation stuff, but some of it is concerning to me. On top of this, she has no activities at all outside of school - no sports, clubs, interests - and this concerns me as well. I'd love recommendations of people between Richmond and North Berkeley. 

    Jessika Fruchter has been amazing with our 13 year old daughter who was very reluctant to go to therapy.  She goes on her own so I don't know how it would be with both, but Jessika has been so great I imagine she would be able to help you and your daughter.  She specializes in teen girls.

  • My husband and I would love to sit down with a therapist and our 15 year old daughter to get to the bottom of all her anger towards us. She angrily told me that she has no relationship with me and all I am is a chauffeur. It was very painful to hear her say that, especially given that I stayed home full-time for the 6 years of her life and went back to work part-time so I could be there when she was out of school. After giving it much thought, I realized she is right. I spent the first 12 plus years of her life doing activities with her and backed away when I became less cool to hang out with and gave her privacy when she was holed up in her room. We have developed a pattern of me driving her to her different social activities and never doing anything together. Her anger towards her father is also at an all time high and they just can't see eye to eye on any issues without getting into a screaming match. I don't want to lose whatever relationship I have with her and am willing to work at repairing what I may have damaged. Any referrals to a family therapist in Oakland or Oakland/Berkeley border would be much appreciated.

    I would recommend David J. Frankel, PhD in Berkeley.  My husband, 13 year old daughter, and I had a couple of sessions with Dr. Frankel earlier this year when we were searching for a therapist for our daughter.  We had tried someone who our daughter didn't click with so we set out on a new search.  We all loved Dr. Frankel.  He is very gentle, and we could have easily had great success working with him.  Ultimately, our daughter chose a different therapist (a female, who it turns out that her BFF at school is also seeing) but we did like David Frankel very much and would wholly recommend him for your family.  He is in Berkeley, near University and Milvia, and his number is (415) 927-7067.

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Questions

Family therapy for mom, dad and 2 teens

Oct 2010

I checked the BPN website and the recommendations for family therapists were pretty old. We need help with issues of stress/anger around long period of dad's unemployment, kids using weed, time to rev up about college admissions, to name a few things. Berkeley/Oakland area. Do I prefer someone older and experienced? Someone young and hip? Male? Female? Someone who has or is raising teenagers? I don't know. For sure, someone who can keep us all open and honest and can cut to the chase and not drag things out. Thanks!
signed: family member most willing to do therapy


Hello, I would like to suggest that you call Claramarie Collins, at the Berkeley Therapy Institute. She is very good at working together with all members of the family, equally. She is especially good at getting the teens to participate- which is huge! The best of luck to you! Claramarie Collins 510-841-8484.
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We have (had) now my kids in college, the BEST THERAPIST in the world. My son would often say, ''I need a Karen, Mom'' I really dont know how he is surviving without her she is so cool. I think shes about 27 and works at clearwater, which is all about teens and families. Karen Sprinkel 510 596-8137. RR


Family therapist for teen & parents

June 2005

We are looking for a family therapist for us, the parents, and our 14 year old son. Someone who is knowledgable about disability issues, both physical and learning, would be helpful but not necessary as long as they are insightful. Berkeley or Oakland area is preferred and someone who can get right to the point is best. We already have a couples therapist and our son has a therapist so we don't need long term. We need someone who can help us troubleshoot through some unpleasant entrenched family dynamics but where all people are open and willing to change.


Lynda Kravitz, Ph.D. has a private practice in Oakland. She meets with families that have children with special needs. I saw her speak for a class on family therapy. She seems very calm and insightful. (510) 420-0888 Another person to try would be Erica Czerwinsky, (510) 595-5591 Kristin


Jill Lebeau, MFT, is a great option for a family therapist. I personally think she is one of the best in this area and I have referred many patients to her from my acupuncture practice. She has two sons of her own if that makes a difference to you. She is very good at getting to the point and moving everyone forward in a very quick and easy way. Her number is 510.849.1010.