St. Paul's Episcopal Church Oakland
Not sure if you're looking to stay with a PCUSA church, but if you're open to others, you might want to check out St. Paul's near Lake Merritt (Episcopal). They are an Oasis Congregation that proactively welcomes LGBT families. First Congregational and Plymouth UCC would be worth checking out too. Hopefully someone will also weigh in on the Presbyterian congregations in the area, though.
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Re: Children's Christmas Service
We've been too quiet about a great family/children's program at St Paul's Episcopal downtown Oakland across the street from Fairyland. A Christmas Eve serivce for families is scheduled for 5PM including the children's choir or all ages.
Starting this year we have taken a new approach with our families offering a 10AM children/parent program parallel to the regular adult Service. Our opening ritual asks each person 3-60+ to talk about their week and what they are grateful for and not so grateful about followed by a seasonal interactive bible lesson. The children and their parents then join the regular service for Eucharist. The children are very familiar with the adult service and enjoy being included.
Feel free to contact me with questions. This is a diverse group of children and parents. Liz