Sleep Consultants

Parent Q&A

No Cry sleep consultants? Oct 21, 2021 (3 responses below)
Sleep Consultant for a 15-month old Sep 28, 2021 (4 responses below)
Sleep consultant? Mar 28, 2021 (7 responses below)
Are sleep consultants worth it? Dec 10, 2020 (9 responses below)
Sleep consultant for infant - video or phone consultation Mar 31, 2020 (7 responses below)
Are sleep doctors helpful if you don't have sleep apnea? Oct 31, 2019 (9 responses below)
Recommendations for sleep training for 3 yr old toddler? Oct 21, 2019 (4 responses below)
Experience with sleep trainer Jul 26, 2019 (1 responses below)
Seeking help in sleep training our 8 month old. Apr 7, 2019 (2 responses below)
Sleep Consultant Sep 12, 2018 (2 responses below)
Looking for sleep consultant for 3 month old Jan 28, 2018 (1 responses below)
Sleep consultant for 18 month old Feb 3, 2017 (3 responses below)
Need Sleep Consultant for 1 year old Nov 29, 2016 (3 responses below)
Need a sleep specialist Oct 27, 2016 (2 responses below)
  • No Cry sleep consultants?

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    Hi, I’m looking for recommendations for sleep consultants who are experienced in Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution methods. Particularly consultants who are not ideologically opposed to bed sharing as well. We are trying to sleep our 4 month old in an arms reach cosleeper but may also bring them into the bed occasionally. Would love for the option of in person consultation if possible  

     if you have any consultants to recommend who Can work with us, please share! Thanks so much,

     sleep deprived, 

    RE: No Cry sleep consultants? ()

    Check out the Australian group LittleOnes

    they have a great online community with sleep consultants and their online program helped us a ton. 

    RE: No Cry sleep consultants? ()

    We have a three month old, so your question sent me down a wonderfully rich rabbit hole on YouTube. I found several sleep training videos that have been very highly regarded by people who said that they transformed  their lives. I especially got a lot out of Natalie WILLES, who interviewed her sleep trainer and also did her own little primer.

    I especially got a lot out of Natalie WILLES, who interviewed her sleep trainer and also did her own little primer.

    I don’t know if you’ll end up finding somebody locally but this person works with people over zoom!

    RE: No Cry sleep consultants? ()

    Heya. We followed the Sleep Lady (Kim West) shuffle method, this is also a gentle method and does not advocate for crying. Though I found that some degree of crying is inevitable… 

    They suggest starting at 6 months which is when the brain can take all this in. 
    here is their website and you can search for coaches by location.

  • Sleep Consultant for a 15-month old

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    I'm looking for a sleep consultant who can offer advice and strategies for my 15-month old daughter who still wakes up several times during the night. We're not interested in cry it out or any "modified" CIO methods, so if you can recommend anyone who has a broader range of approaches, I'd appreciate it. Can you also give a sense of the cost, if you know it? Thanks in advance!

    Hi -- we're in the midst of a great experience with Sleep Wise (, specifically Darrah Torres. We noticed a difference in night wakings and improved napping in a couple days with our 4.5 mo.  Their basic package is $395, all remote. 

    They do include crying as part of the process. 

    If you'll forgive a little unsolicited pushback (with the strong caveat that every kid and every family is different) from a second-time mom, I've yet to meet any parent who has a successful sleeper capable of self-soothing who did not let their child cry before sleep at some point.  There are alternatives to an extinction approach that reduce the quantity and intensity of crying (although usually prolonging the number of nights with more than five minutes of it).  But in my experience the hardest hurdle to climb on the way to good sleep is giving your kid the space they need to teach themselves the skill of falling asleep and your kid will be *pissed* when you stop doing that soothing for them.  Any time I've given in to that demand to step in and do the work for my kids, I've paid in night wakings and delayed bedtimes and resentment on both sides.


    My job covered this telehealth service for new families and I was really skeptical at first, but found their sleep consultants super helpful. I'm pretty sure you can sign up as an individual. You can browse different profiles and see which person's approach might be right for you.

    Good luck!


    moorea [at]  

    moorea is amazing - total baby whisperer!

  • Sleep consultant?

    (7 replies)

    Hi all! We are the parents of a 5 month old who still only sleeps on people (we cosleep at night, and wear her in a sling during the day). None of us are sleeping well, but we're not sure what to do, given all of the conflicting advice on the internet. Has anyone had a positive experience with a sleep consultant? Would you recommend him/her? We are hoping to find someone with clear, consistent advice that can be tailored to the needs of our particular baby. Thank you!

    RE: Sleep consultant? ()

    We used Shannon from Sleep Well Specialist. We loved her so much that we used her again for our 2nd child. She works with you and your family's needs along with identifying sleep dependencies of your child in order to build a personalized sleep plan. Her and her team are great to work

    RE: Sleep consultant? ()

    Heck yes! Had wonderful, wonderful experience working with Amanda Brewer from A to Z sleep solutions. They are based in Arizona where I am from but since the service we used was the phone/email/text support it can be done from anywhere and we were actually in MI at the time we hired her. CHANGED OUR LIVES! Teaching a baby to sleep on their own is 100% possible but as first time parents it seemed like the advice was all contradictory and everything we tried miserably failed until we hired Amanda and got professional, personalized, kind guidance teaching us how to teach her to relax for sleep. Within a week she was sleeping thru the night and within 2 weeks she was going down for naps and bedtime on her own in her crib. It was loving, gradual and effective and a MAJOR IMPROVEMENT in my parenting happiness. Gave me so much more confidence! And the price is was reasonable I thought though honestly having done it I would pay 3x more than what I did because it was so valuable!

    RE: Sleep consultant? ()

    We had a great experience with a sleep consultant, and it really saved our sanity. Our consultant is no longer in the business, so I can't recommend her. But you should be able to get a free initial consult/call, just so you can see if the consultant's approach is the right fit for you. Exhaustion doesn't help anyone. Good luck!

  • Are sleep consultants worth it?

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    We're getting close to our wit's end with our 2-year-old and his sleep habits (or lack thereof). He's been fighting sleep since day one, seems to actively dislike it, and doesn't typically reach the minimum amount of the recommended range for his age (e.g., he should be getting 11-14 hours/day now but only gets 9-10).

    We do all the "best practices" that we've found from reputable sources, and have tried everything we can think of. We've asked the pediatrician and she doesn't seem alarmed, which is good, but a lack of advice from her doesn't help me and his mother become less zombie-esque. 

    Should we try a sleep consultant? Are they worth it? If so, do you have any recommendations?

    My response to reading your post is YES!! It sounds like both your son and you and your partner are all three unhappy with the current situation, so consider this a quality of life improvement for the whole family. The amount of sleep he's getting aside, it's not good for anyone for sleep to be battle or an unpleasant part of the day. We used Maria at and she was wonderful and I would recommend her. Just having someone to answer your questions and give you a plan to follow for your specific situation is so helpful. Her plan for us was very detailed with all the "what if this happens" contingencies provided for, and she was easily available to answer questions and give us feedback as we followed it. It was worth every penny; my partner says it was one of our best decisions. 

    Hi. We hired a sleep consultant for a similar situation (but for both our 2 AND 4 year old). They were historically decent sleepers but both had major regressions, took forever to fall asleep, needed us in the room, etc etc. We worked with because she had the most reasonable rates and I think it was helpful. It was a lot of review of things we had already tried or knew we should try but she helped coach us through a very specific plan and held us accountable for being very very consistent. The biggest change she had us make was putting them to bed WAY earlier than before. I thought it would never work but it was the most helpful thing (6:30 bed time instead of 8:30-9). It took a full month of very regimented consistency (with improvement almost immediately) and has helped a ton months later now that we aren't quite as regimented. We looked into other sleep consultants with prices much much higher and we could not justify that cost. Good luck! 

    as a parent to two, i want to encourage you to go for it! i'd suggest finding one that works with your philosophy and invest in your sanity and self-care. after my first, i regretted not doing it. i thought i could read through books and blogs to save the money. boy, did i regret that. all of those restful nights are priceless!

    i ended up not needing one of my second (kids are different!) but i gave myself the ok to do so should it be needed/desired. be kind to yourself ! :)

  • Hello,

    We have a 5-month-old baby who used to sleep through the night (6.5-7 hours) and suddenly can’t stay asleep longer than 2 hours (sometimes as few as 20 minutes) without being held. We don’t know if it’s the sudden change from being in daycare to being sheltered in place, or just a normal developmental thing, but as two working parents trying to figure out life in the corona virus-era, we’ve come to the place where we are looking for help. Thought I’d post here to see if any parents have recommendations for sleep consultants (or things to look for/avoid). 

    If you’ve worked with someone before and liked them, who did you work with and what did you like about them? How long did you have to work with them before seeing results? Also, guidance on the going rate for sleep consultants?

    Any help is appreciated. At this point, we’re looking for someone who will do video and/or phone consultations.

    Sounds to me like the 4-month sleep regression came slightly later. Keep with your good bedtime sleep routines, and if you’re open to sleep training (ask your peds first), you can start thinking about sleep training.  We chose not to sleep train (CIO) but rather stuck to our routines, putting down drowsy, and rode out the 3ish weeks (it was painful but for us worth it).  Usually with some gentle sleep coaching and good bedtime routines, this regression rides itself out. 

    This sounds like a 4 month sleep regression. In theory, if they learn to fall asleep by themselves in the place where they will sleep for the whole night then they should improve at getting themselves back to sleep when they wake up. I have used the resources on and have called them for a consultation (on a different sleep issue). It's not cheap but it was virtual, efficient, helpful, and they also answered lots of follow up questions for no additional charge. See their blog on the 4 month sleep regression at:

    We were just finishing our sleep training with Anne Del Valle of weesleep and it's been great. She is in the bay area, but everything was done via video or phone.

  • I've had persistent poor sleep for years. Having kids has just made my sleep cycles much worse, and I'm really tired. I have tried natural remedies, but I find if I wake up, whether it's in the middle of the night or an hour before I need to get up for work, I have a very very hard time getting back to sleep. I fall asleep pretty easily (I'm exhausted, of course I do!). I have done some sleep tracking, even though I know that consumer trackers are limited, and basically I'm extremely restless and don't get a lot of REM or deep sleep. I do have Hashimoto's (no need to get the thyroid tested to include in the assessment), but I'd like to talk to a sleep doctor if it would be at all useful. Any recommendations? I know sleep science is limited. (I avoid screens get ready for bed half an hour before getting into bed, and dim lights, get relatively frequent and vigorous exercise, don't drink much.) Thanks!

    I had terrible insomnia for a few years and CBT worked for me.  I saw Dr  Richard Barth in Oakland, I can't recommend him enough!  Good luck, not sleeping is so awful.

    Could you have a mild form of apnea? I didn't think I had it either but did an in-home sleep study and found that I do. I'm in my early 40s, exercise regularly, don't drink, and am in relative good health so didn't think I was a typical sleep apnea case. Mine is mild enough that I don't need a c-pap machine, and can be helped with a dental device. It works like a mouth guard that corrects the airflow pathway, allowing more oxygen through. My sleep doctor is in SF, his name is Dr. Douglas Chenin

    He is very thorough and patient and will walk you through the steps to understand, diagnose, and treat this issue. Good luck. Sleep is so important.

    I recommend to read “Sleep, Interrupted” by Steven Park MD. It’s available on audible too. I learned it’s not just sleep apnea but upper airway resistant syndrome etc can cause you difficult to sleep. If you’d think anything in the book sounds similar to you, I highly recommend to see sleep doctor. 

  • Help!  Can anyone recommend a sleep consultant they've worked with?

    I am looking for a sleep consultant or in-home sleep trainer for our 3 year old toddler.  She had been able to to sleep in her own room after a night time routine from me or my husband.  Then, a few months before her little brother was born, she began to sleep-regress and either begs to sleep in the master bedroom with me/husband/newborn brother or needs someone to sleep in her room with her.  

    Since having the 3-year old stay in our room is not sustainable, can anyone recommend a sleep trainer who can help get our daughter back to sleeping in her own room?  

    Can anyone recommend a sleep consultant they've worked with?  I also found this person Megan Shinkle with a Google search ( so if you've worked with her, would you be willing to chat with me about your experience? 

    -Carol in Oakland

    [Moderator note: View past suggestions here: ]

    Hi Carol - we used Pam Wipf with our LO and have been very pleased

    I highly recommend Sleep Wise Consulting - we are working with them now to sleep train our 3.5 month old, and they are exceptional, and it's working! Tons of support and expertise. We are working with Darrah, although I've heard great things about the other consultants, too. Good luck! And it's so worth the $!

    Just a suggestion - try having a bit more light in your child's room. It seems that a lot of kids develop fear of the dark at this age. My daughter did, and since I put a little lamp with a 7 watt bulb in her room instead of just a night light, she hasn't been waking or crying for me unless she's sick.

  • Experience with sleep trainer

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    We are thinking about sleep training for our son. I have checked a few sleep consultants in the Bay Area and I am wondering if anybody has experience that wants to share (positive or negative) with Adele Thompson, Sarah Healy or Angellique Millette. Thanks!

    RE: Experience with sleep trainer ()

    It's been a long time but I used Angellique and she was great. Very empathetic, gave us a good plan, available, nurturing.

  • We are looking for recommendation on sleep consultants to help with our 8 month old to stay sleeping through the night.  Please let us know who help you/ what your experience was and pricing if you are willing.  We are tired. 

    Adele Thompson is a godsend... She worked magic for our son and my niece. She is kind, brilliant and makes herself readily available. I can't recommend her enough!

    We used the Baby Sleep Whisperer ( 3 years ago, and it changed our lives. At that time we paid $800 for a 2 week program (for both night sleep as well as naps) - but would have paid much more given what it did for us. We didn't have anyone come to our house (those are much more expensive) - it was all done virtually. Sleep training isn't for everyone, but it saved us. Our then 9/10 month old was also much better rested afterward, and a whole new side of him came out (less cranky, much more engaged). Nap times became a breeze (and reliable), and he continued to nap until recently (almost 4). I don't think the pricing package that we got is available anymore (it looks like they've changed the site), but there are many good consultants out there. Good luck! 

  • Sleep Consultant

    (2 replies)

    We really need advice from parents who seeked  professional help in helping infants to sleep.  Our 17 month infant has a hard time sleeping. We haven't had a decent night of sleep for almost a year.  Any guidance or advice will helpful. 

    RE: Sleep Consultant ()

    I'm so sorry to hear this. We used sleep consultant Eileen Henry. Her website is  

    Good luck and I hope you get some decent sleep soon!

    RE: Sleep Consultant ()

    I highly recommend Eileen Henry of Compassionate Sleep Solutions. We used her for my son starting at age 4 months; he would only sleep on my chest all night long or in a moving swing for naps. She helped us transition him to his own crib in his own room by helping us understand the crying cycle and recognize cycling cries versus distress cries. And of course, to put ourselves in a calm space during the crying. It was not a walk in the park for that 1-2 week transition, but it was so critical to our well-being. Our son transformed into a solid sleeper and remains so today, at age four.

    Google “Helping Babies Sleep (With Empathy And Compassion) Guest Post by Eileen Henry” on for her approach and website. 

  • We have started sleep training our three month old. We tried Sleep Sense which helped us get nighttime sleeping working a little better but our daytime naps are a disaster and we need help! Does anyone have any great experiences with a sleep consultant who would work with us in Oakland? We are open to whatever method they think would work best for our baby. Thanks! 

    Don't limit yourself geographically when looking for a sleep consultant. When my child was 6 months old, I hired a sleep consultant who was based in Connecticut. Everything is done via email, Google Docs and Skype. From what I know, most consultants don't actually come to your house (unless you're totally desperate and willing to shell out major cash). I used the "Baby Sleep Whisperer", and she changed my life, so I highly recommend them. But there are many options out there. Good luck! 

  • Sleep consultant for 18 month old

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    Hi there,

    I'm hoping someone might have a recommendation for a sleep specialist for an 18-month-old.  We saw Meg Zweiback and I'm hoping to find someone else.  He's fine at going down at night but wakes up frequently in the night and stays awake for hours.  Or he wakes up really early.  3:50 this morning!  I've read Weissbluth and am in the middle of Ferber, but I need a little personal guidance and my pediatrician didn't have any ideas.  

    Thanks so much! 

    We got huge relief working with Eileen Henry, RIE Associate. 303.953.0203

    She's based out of Boulder, CO but works over the phone just fine. (We recorded our baby's cries and she helped us understand them and monitored his progress that way.) Highly recommended, worth every penny, wish we had used her for our first kid!

    Check out Dawn Fry. 

    We used her for our now 4yr old when she was 10mo. after 10 months of colic and sleep deprivation I was willing to hire a night nurse if necessary. Dawn was a better option. She saved my sanity, my marriage and gave me a life.  We still continue with her method. Our daughter is one of very few 4yr olds we know who still will nap for 2 hours in the afternoon. I swear it's becaus we figured out the right sleep fit. We also employed some of her environment techniques for ourselves and my husband and I sleep better then ever before. 

    We followed a modified process for our infant who has always napped and sleeps in her crib all night. Although she's a completely different little person and has been agreeable from day 1. 

    Having now had a sleepless colicy baby, and an easy mellow baby, I can attest to the struggle. It's not's them.

    best of luck! 

    She's not local but Brandi Jordan at the Cradle Company in Southern California will work with you via phone/Skype. She keeps it simple and keeps working with you via phone check ins and texts until you get where you want to be. We also saw Meg and didn't feel like she was a good fit for our family. Good luck mama!

  • Need Sleep Consultant for 1 year old

    (3 replies)

    My one year old daughter is having difficulty sleeping through the night and I would like to engage a sleep consultant. Most of the posts I found are a few years old and a lot recommend Meg Zweiback. I checked Meg's website and she is not available at this time. Does anyone have any other recommendations? We live in Oakland and would like someone who works in the East Bay. Please help!

    My oldest was a challenging sleeper, going to bed staying asleep.  I read all the books.  Finally, we went to Meg Zweilback and for me it wasn't a great match.  What I did find to be very helpful was an online program called the babysleepsite (Nicole Johnson)  There is a very detailed survey about your child, their routines, their personality.  They then come up with a sleep plan based on that information.  You have follow up e-mails.  It helped.  It didn't turn him into a magic sleeper (by the way at 5 he is a pretty great sleeper now, so there is hope) but it did help with the going to bed and some night wakings   I also felt like it was personalized and doable.

    Best of luck getting sleep

    I am sorry you are struggling! We had a tough time with sleep too - after a particularly bad run of wake-ups every 45 minutes for several months, we called Marsha Podd, to help us. We lived in SF at the time, but she is based in Marin and is fine to travel. It cost a bundle to have her come to our house, but literally the night she came our 11 month old slept through the night for the first time in his life. He still had regressions of course, but after that the worst regressions were waking up once or twice, and he mostly slept through the night. Now at 4 we take his sleeping through the night for granted. Good luck!

    We had great success with a long-distance sleep consultant named Eileen Henry based in Boulder, CO. Her website is and phone is 303.953.0203. I highly recommend her. We had multiple phone consultations and completed ample questionnaires, including recording our baby's cries so she could help us identify the types of crying (distress vs self-soothing). We were reluctant to sleep train but also desperate since our second child would only sleep on my chest for naps and through the night. Needless to say, this became untenable quite quickly once he was beyond newborn size. We purchased a package and worked with Eileen over the better part of a year as our son reached various milestones that impacted his sleep patterns, and each time the shift back to a healthy sleeping pattern happened more quickly.

    Eileen's approach does involve some crying, but works within the parents' abilities to withstand it rather than enforcing rules about it--though following her advice of waiting 20 minutes (and training yourself to meditate and visualize during that agonizing time) does bring faster results. You are also able to pick up the child and touch them if you feel the need to, but she encourages experimenting with minimal touch like placing a hand on the chest. I liked her dual approach of bringing together brain science for the baby and focusing on the emotional wellness of the parents going through the process--for the benefit of all involved. She's practical and funny and true to her business name, compassionate, and also clear and responsive.

    The earlier the better for sleep training, so I'm not sure what it'd look like with a one year old. All I can say is that within a few days our son was sleeping through the night and continues to sleep a blessed 11 hours straight and goes down without a fuss 99% of the time, now at age 2. How I wish we had done this with our first-born, whom we rocked, bounced, massaged to sleep...and she still needs us to help her transition to sleep at age 5. Lesson learned!

    Worth every penny. If I could give a sleep consultation package to every expectant friend, I would!

  • Need a sleep specialist

    (2 replies)

    My 6 year old daughter won't sleep in her bed. She's always been an awful sleeper which led us to [unwanted] co-sleeping. By the time she was 4 co-sleeping wasn't working for us anymore and our marriage needed serious work. Over the past two years we have been struggling to transition our daughter to sleeping in her room. She will make great progress and sleep relatively well for 2-3 weeks and then inevitably bounces back to her usual refusal to sleep on her own, in spite of all our efforts to reward her good nighttime behavior. She wakes up and starts demanding that my husband or I sleep with her, won't take no for an answer or agree to be taken back to her bed. She will scream for hours demanding that we do what she wants. No amount of begging/negotiating/firmness gets us anywhere.  We have contacted our pediatrician but didn't get any suggestions that weren't obvious and already in use (such as reward chart, etc). We are absolutely exhausted and miserable. I wonder if anyone has been through the same and had any luck using a sleep specialist like Meg Zweiback, or someone else? I've read reviews and they are all written by parents of much younger children, little babies and young toddlers. No reviews from parents of school aged kids. These specialists are very expensive and it would be great to hear from someone who's had success with an "older" child, like my daughter. 

    RE: Need a sleep specialist ()

    Do you have a pet?  My daughter's sleep issues did not rise to this level, but she did wake us every night for years because she had nightmares and was afraid to be alone.  We got a dog.  As soon as the dog was house trained she slept with my daughter.  Daughter never woke us at night again.  She just needed some reassuring company.

    RE: Need a sleep specialist ()

    I haven't used her for sleep, but I did use Meg Zweiback for the behavioral issues for my son and I think she's excellent! 

Archived Q&A and Reviews

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One year old with early wake up and poor sleep

Nov 2007

I have a one year old with sleep issues. Does anyone know a good sleep consultant? Im trying to find someone in El Cerrito/Berkeley/Albany. I live in El Cerrito and dont want to drive all the way to Oakland. Would love to know! A-

I consulted with Noelle Cochran [noellecochran [at]], who does all her consulting via phone. She is warm, goes with what you are comfortable with, but let's you know what to expect given your child and their developmental station. You contact her via email to set an appointment. She is very busy but will get to you. Good luck! kim

Sleep consultant for infant

Oct 2007

i'd like recommendations for a sleep consultant. i am considering hiring a consultant for my 3 month old. i'd really like to get him sleeping before i have to go back to work. if you've done this, what are the pros & cons. also, so far, i've heard of vivien sonnenberg, meg zweibach & noelle cochran. any thoughts? thanks! sleepless mom

Are you asking for additional names or just people's thoughts on using a sleep consultant? We consulted Meg Zweiback to help us with sleep training, as well as for help with other issues as our daughter got older. Anyone who knows me knows that I think she's a genius. The only con is that her services are not free! They were, however, well worth every cent we spent. Especially the sleep training. Good luck! It's not easy, but it sure is nice to have some professional help. Meg Z. fan

I went to Meg Zweibach and she was very good. She is realistic, flexible, patient, and wise.

I am recommending a truly gifted child development specialist who provides consultations and coaching on everything with kids - sleep, behavior, weaning...

She helped me, over the phone while I lived in AZ and she in CA, to get my very sleep challenged/challenging daughter (now 20 months) on a great routine. We had to do cry it out eventually, but at the same time she was doing no-cry with my friend who referred me to her. Later when challenges resurfaced she helped me find a completely different solution fitting for my daughter's stage of development. She also helped me wean my daughter, who actually finally weaned herself from her final regular feeding!!! I never imagined THAT could ever happen.

She's extremely knowledgeable, patient, supportive, practical and kind. She pays attention to what YOUR particular family needs and can adapt her approach as is appropriate to your situation - no cookie cutters in her tool kit. When we finally met face to face my normally shy little girl sat in her lap and hugged her...I know someone else had the title of the Baby Whisperer, but the moniker fits this woman as well:

Angelique Millette , PhDc MFTt PD/CD(DONA) CMT Postpartum & Birth Doula (DONA certified) 415.785.4180

She's a gem! ariel

Sleep specialist for 22-month-old

Sept 2007

I am posting on behalf of a friend who lives in Pleasanton. Can anyone recommend a sleep specialist for a 22 month old who has had sleep issues off and on since 5 months of age. They have Kaiser but have not had much luck there and the recommendations on the archives at BPN are a little outdated. Thanks

I've had two recent and great experiences with Meg Zweiback . She understands children and parents and I felt like she gave us appropriate, sensitive and reasonable recs to help our toddler improve her sleep. It was well worth the money and I felt like I ended up learning about my toddler in the process because of the way Meg asks questions and explains her suggestions. It also helped me to know that she has been doing this for a long time. She was welcoming and calm and seems to really know her stuff. Couldn't recommend her more highly! Anon

Sleep consultant for 6-month-old

November 2006

Our six month old daughter gets up many times per night and struggles with going back to sleep. We've read many sleep books and tried many methods and nothing seems to work. We are now interested in sleep consultants in the bay area. Does anyone have any new recommendations? sleep deprived

We love Vivian Sonnenberg - she is responsible for many happy sleep filled nights in our home! She truly is the baby whisperer - Her number is 415-383-0560 Good luck!

Sleep deprived,
We waited until our baby was 9 months old, hoping he would sleep on his own, but no luck. We read many books (too) before we called a sleep consultant, Vivian Sonnenberg. She was recommended by a friend, and has been written up in the SF Chronicle. Although her service was a little pricey, she was worth every penny! We are so happy and now everyone in the house is well-rested. Her website is Good Luck! Loving our sleep

Sleep specialist for 15 month old

August 2005

We are looking for a sleep specialist or consultant to help us address our sleep issues with our 15 month old boy. Is there anyone who has used a sleep specialist recently who they would recommend? a very tired mama

Our son is a year old and was a terrible sleeper.

We went to see Meg Zweiback (836-1450) when he was maybe 8 months old because he had to be held for a large part of the night to sleep at all, would wake as often as 20 times, never slept longer than a couple hours at a stretch. We met with her twice (and had daily phone consults in between our meetings) and he got to be a much better sleeper.

Our schedule got really out of wack for 3 weeks and the baby regressed pretty seriously. When he was 11 months old we took him back to Meg and she gave us different advice that also worked. (Initially we tried doing the same thing we did the first time around but it wasn't working. When we went back, she told us he was at a different stage developmentally so we needed to do something different.) Now he is back on track and is sleeping even better than before. He usually wakes up once around 3 or 4 to eat and otherwise sleeps about 8-6:30.

It only took 2-3 nights the first time to get him sleeping well. The second time it took a little more than a week. The process was painful (lots of crying) but well worth it for all of us.

Good luck.

Sleep specialist for baby

March 2004

Hi -- I'm considering consulting with a specialist about my baby's sleep issues. He seems to be having more difficulty than is ordinary (he's certainly having more difficulty than my daughter did), and the situation is not good for him or for the rest of the family. Despite our efforts at sleep training and other methods, he is incapable of organizing his sleep. He has a great deal of trouble going to sleep and staying asleep, waking every ten minutes or so during naps and every hour or so at night. I know that Stanford has a sleep clinic that includes pediatrics. I'm wondering -- has anyone ever used the Stanford clinic? Or has anyone used a specialist closer to home and gotten good results? I'm not even sure what sort of specialist we need -- medical doctor, nurse practitioner, alternative medicine -- so any recommendations are welcome. Thanks so much. Sleep Deprived in Oakland

I have had similar sleep patterns with my 3month old dauther in the day time. Night time is getting better. We have been seeing an osteopath regularly since her birth and this is helped tremendously. The one I have been seeing is moving and I am looking for another currently. I can't say enough about the benefits of osteopathy, especially for newborns and children. It has done wonders for her digestive issues and sleep. Monica

Need help for son who can't sleep through the night


We're looking for someone who can help us deal with our son's sleep issues. We've received conflicting advice from our pediatrician and other professionals, but it doesn't seem to matter anyway since he still has a tough time sleeping through the night, and he seems unable to put himself back to sleep by himself (and sometimes with our help). Does anyone have recommendations for anyone who specializes in sleep disorders? (And yes, we've read four books and tried everything from attachment style to Ferber and beyond - with no success.) Thanks in advance.

There is a sleep disorders clinic at Stanford you might contact. You could also talk to a developmental pediatrician if you haven't already. Good luck! Melissa

We engaged Meg Zweiback both when my son was a wakeful baby and for dealing with big boy bed freedom. She is great -- analyzes the issue and provides a prescription that worked well for us in both cases. I strongly recommend her. Her number is 836-1450. Kathleen

The sleep consultant we worked with is Rachel Biale. She works only by phone, which actually turned out to be preferable. She likes to work with both parents, and working by phone makes it much easier to coordinate. Her method of sleep training is similar to Ferber, except that you stay with the baby. It's helpful for those of us who just can't close the door and not go in, and the baby is not alone. But it is just heartbraking to stay with your baby while he screams, and NOT pick him up. Rachel individualizes her approach for each family, so I can only speak to what she had us do. We let Eli cry in his crib for 10 min without touching him, just talking to calm him. Then we tried patting and touching to soothe him, without picking him up, for another 10 min. If he was still crying (which he always was), then we picked him up and soothed him, and when he was calm, we put him down and started all over again. Also, my partner and I took turns. Even though this didn't ultimately work for us, we did find it helpful. Rachel worked with us within our limits, instead of saying that the method demands certain procedures, like most of the books out there do. In the end, we decided that we weren't making enough progress quickly enough to be able to continue. But this is a procedure that has worked well for many parents.

My daughter had bad sleeping problems, and in the end, I found I had to rely on my own maternal instinct. I talked to many professionals, I tried almost all suggestions and read every book I could get my hands on. My best contact was the UCSF Sleep Program. Unfortunately, no one can give you just the right answer and no particular method is guaranteed to work. After years of trying to follow other's ideas of dealing with short sleep cycles, movement and sound sensitivity I stopped listening and followed my own instincts. I have tried to make sleep/night a safe and secure place. A time of security and a positive experience. It is important to remember that the current ideas of what I child should sleep like is not only a generalization but is the in trend of thinking for our times. When you look back in history, or at other cultures, you can see that the ideas of how children should sleep and how the parents handle it vary greatly. It is also helpful to hear what other parents experience with their children. The longer I dealt with the problem the more commonly I heard about other's problem situations. You must also remember that every family has different limits on what they will handle. Some keep their children up late, others want the child asleep early. Some parents get up and sit with the child, others bring the child into their bed.Everyone sleeps differently. Some fall asleep quickly, others take time. Some people are 'light' sleepers, other's heavy. I suggest you look at your sleep style and see if it matches your child's in any way. My situation has still not completely resolved itself but it is much better. Ndevent

More reviews of sleep consultants

July 2002

RE: 8 month old standing in crib, exhausted
We worked with a very intuitive baby coach named Sarah Swales, 652-0774. If you want to get away from the one-size-fits-all formulas, I highly recommend inviting Sarah over to meet you and your child. She picked up on things about my son's sleep style that I wouldn't have noticed, and she offered me and my husband great support.

We had major sleep challenges (including standing in the crib), and we've worked through them all in gentle baby steps with Sarah's help. We met with her 3 times and spent a few hundred dollars in the process. Totally worth it.

Other people in my moms' group have consulted with Sarah, so I know for a fact that she is not giving us all the same solutions. EM