Potty-training support at preschool
Hi everyone, wanted to get some thoughts on potty-training support for preschools. I am researching preschools "normally", assuming that I will send my 3-year old to a preschool in Fall 2020 so asking the usual questions, which include the potty. (If they aren't physically open due to SIP still, that's another bridge to cross if we get there.) So, putting it out there for parents who've considered these same questions:
- Some preschools require the child to be potty-trained and do not offer potty-training support. If your child was not yet potty-trained by the time you found this out about the school, did you try to put your child on a potty-training schedule to be full-trained by school start? Or would you not consider this preschool?
- One preschool I called (that did not have potty-training support) said that while a teacher will accompany the child to the toilet, they do not assist the child in wiping. The admin explaining this to me was very clear that the teacher does not "touch" the child. I wasn't sure if this was supposed to put me at ease because it actually made me wonder why they would not help a child clean themselves. Are there legal issues surrounding a teacher helping a child wipe their private parts? Is this standard policy? I am asking because while I train my child, it is extra stressful to also expect that he can fully wipe himself clean without any assistance. I'm still battling to get him to poop in the toilet, and to tell him that on top of it he has to wipe until clean without help is going to send him running back to diapers... The admin also told me that if the child has a poop accident, he has to be sent home for the day. Is that also standard policy?
- I am leaning towards a preschool that at least provides the potty-training support option if my son would need it, even though there is always an additional diaper fee. However, I do see a lot of good preschools that simply just require that the child be potty-trained. We're in May, and if school begins in September, how realistic is it to expect that my son could be fully potty-trained in 3.5 months? He is in pull-ups and will pee in the potty if reminded, but not really poop in the potty yet. It's a challenge to not know what is actually going to be the state of things by then but be expected to commit to something still!
Thanks for your thoughts!