Highly intelligent kid in OUSD
My son is finishing kindergarten at an Oakland public school, and his teacher is recommending that he skip first grade. We think skipping would be bad for him socially. He is doing well socially this year, and I think he would function ok with kids a little older than him, but we worry how he would do once he hits the teen years. I have heard so much anecdotal evidence that teen boys suffer socially when they are younger than their classmates. He is going to need a lot of maturity to deal with some of the situations he will encounter in Oakland schools as he gets older. We can’t afford to move, to send him to private school, or to homeschool, so we foresee having to deal with OUSD for many years to come. A lot of parents of gifted children seem to be focused on helping their children live up to their academic potential, but our biggest concern is that have the opportunity to learn how to deal with challenging work. He is the kind of kid who is going to learn plenty on his own, but he isn’t the kind who will push himself when something is hard. I also worry about behavioral problems emerging when he is forced to do busywork all day. How do we make school work for him academically? What should we ask the school to do to support him? (He doesn’t have any disabilities that would qualify him for an IEP or 504.) Who specifically do I ask to meet with to come up with a plan?