Getting hit on at drop off
So my wife is getting hit on by another father during drop-off of our kid at school. It makes her feel uncomfortable. She's 90% sure he's hitting on her. Any ideas on what to do?
Some details: What's complicated, to me, is that he's an ex-cop, and that doesn't sit well with me. He does drop off, or the child's maternal grandmother. Never the mom. It's making my wife uncomfortable during drop off, making her think twice about her outfit (she's on her way to work after drop off), because he's commented on her appearance. I think he's creating an uncomfortable environment thus I think of it as a form of harassment. I can't do drop off regularly b/c of my commute. Through the school directory everyone knows where everyone lives; it's a neighborhood school where we live (but they don't). The other child is nice, we'd like our kids to be friends- but right now? no way. What to do? I'm thinking she or I should raise it to someone? Grandmother? a teacher? Or, to him, "Sure, let's do coffee- I'll find a time my husband can join us and I'd love to meet your wife..." then never schedule anything? Then escalate, if needed: she confronts him privately next time it happens: "Are you hitting on me? Please stop." Ideas?
And I don't even feel comfortable leaving my username here. I feel the fact that we're not talking about it is precisely how this sort of thing is perpetuated. She's quite bothered by it, and I fantasize her telling him to knock it off in front of his daughter; or telling the grandmother about her son-in-law. Of course, trying to maintain a sense of propriety we don't. And we don't want to rile him up. But he's causing the problem, and it continues.