Advice about Medical, Legal, and Financial Issues


BPN Policy

It is OK to ask about other parents' experiences with a particular problem. But if you are seeking advice about how to proceed on a legal issue, or looking for informed medical advice, BPN is not the right place to post. BPN does not accept questions that an expert should answer, such as advice about legal, medical, scientific, or financial issues. Please instead consult with a doctor, lawyer, financial advisor, etc.  The BPN website has many archived recommendations for professional services. You can ask for a new referral by posting a new question - click Post a Message in the main menu.


Why we have this policy

  1. BPN subscribers have the best of intentions and want to help their fellow parents, but BPN has no way to tell whether the person giving you legal or medical advice knows what they are talking about, and neither do you. In the past, parents have dispensed medical advice while implying or stating outright they were medical professionals, when it turned out they weren't.  BPN has a big audience and we don't want subscribers to get inaccurate information that could affect their health or their pocketbook from a well-meaning subscriber who is not actually trained in the law or medicine.

  2. BPN subscribers who *are* lawyers, doctors, accountants, etc. cannot give you good advice based on a brief message you posted to the newsletters. In fact, this is prohibited by many professional organizations, because these issues are often complex, and require a more in-depth and/or in-person consultation to give accurate advice.


Examples of questions that are NOT accepted:

  • Can I get full physical custody of my child if my ex is an alcoholic?
  • Do I have to pay income taxes for my nanny?
  • Are vaccinations safe?
  • Does my neighbor have a legal right to use my driveway?
  • Are there alternative treatments for my child's asthma?

Questions about Vaccinating

BPN does not accept posts asking whether to refuse or delay vaccinations. Vaccinations protect not only your child but also our entire community. If you believe there is a medical reason why your child should not be vaccinated, you should discuss this with your pediatrician, not with other parents on BPN.

BPN also does not accept recommendations for pediatricians who support not vaccinating or delaying vaccinations. To our knowledge, there are no pediatricians in the area who do NOT follow the vaccination schedule recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. BPN does not want to publish recommendations for pediatricians said by parents to be "anti-vax friendly" who do not actually hold that view.

From the American Academy of Pediatrics website, January 2017:

"Vaccines protect children's health and save lives. They prevent life-threatening diseases, including forms of cancer. Vaccines have been part of the fabric of our society for decades and are the most significant medical innovation of our time.... Delaying vaccines only leaves a child at risk of disease. Vaccines keep communities healthy, and protect some of the most vulnerable in our society, including the elderly, and children who are too young to be vaccinated or have compromised immune systems." See https://www.healthychildren.org for more information