Which Preschool for Shy Child?

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Small Oakland Preschool for shy boy

Jan 2012

My 3 year old boy is in a large preschool, which I like for some reasons, but not crazy about the teachers or the lack of teacher stability. He started last April, and had a hard adjustment. Still today, he doesn't ever want to go, but doesn't fight it as much anymore.

He's extremely shy, and slow to warm, even compared to other 3 year olds. I'm interested in trying a small, maybe home-based preschool with more like 8-12 kids. He gets easily overwhelmed in large groups. That includes all classes we've tried (even when parents are there), music, soccer, gym, etc. He'd rather just stay home.

Any recs. for a pre-school in Oakland, preferably Redwood/Laurel/Fruitvale area, but willing to travel further. I know of one small one, but they are booked this year and next. Also, we need a school that allows part time (3 full days/week). Thanks in advance! Shy boy's Mama

Bloomers in Glenview, run by Carolyn Carpenter. You can find her listed in the BPN website. A small preschool, home-based, super nice and kind, intelligent owner. Nice outdoor area. We went there for about 2 years, about 2 years ago. Only full days, but you can go for 3 days a week. Joanne

Beatie Street Preschool and Kindergarten is the way to go. 15 kids. very experienced teachers. Very progressive. Funky space. Judy knows what she's doing. This is not just a school, or even a community, it's a kind of a family. I live in the Laurel and would prefer not to have to go down Park Blvd in the morning, but it is worth it. Contact me if you'd like. Michele

Preschool for slow-to-warm child

Nov 2011

Hello, I am starting to research preschool schools for my 2 year old. And, I would love a school that is either a Montessori based or a school that has a dedicated Spanish class or instruction. However, my child is extremely slow to warm with some anxiety. We are working on this area and hoping preschool interaction will help. I have been advised to find a school that doesn't combine ages (i.e. 2-5yr olds) in the same class room. Any recommendations or suggestions on schools would be appreciated. Jennifer

I know that you are looking for a Montessori based, or Spanish immersion type, preschool... however, if you're interested in other options, try the Child Education Center in Berkeley. www.childeducationcenter.org

My 4 year old, as well as my almost 2 year old, both started out in the Infant Room. We've been around for quite some time, and have seen lots of children come through the doors at CEC. What's amazing is that each child, even the ones with slow-to-warm up temperaments, seem able to connect with at least one teacher in each classroom. All the teachers are very warm, nurturing, and open. What's great is that there are 5 separate classrooms: Infants, Toddlers, Twos, Preschool, and Pre-K, but at some point during the day, different groups of kids get to interact w/ each other. I love that my 4 year old and 2 year old get to play together during outside time, and that each teacher knows each child. It makes for a great extended family feeling. Sherry

Montessori Family School in Berkeley is a wonderful choice for a slow to warm child. We have been there for over a year, and the mix of ages in the preschool program has been great for my son. Now that he's 4 - he started at 3 and a half and was one of the younger kids when he first started - he's helping the younger kids settle in, with lots of love and support from his teachers. It's a really cool phenomenon, and MFS is dedicated to making sure that the mixed-age Montessori model really work for all the kids. Alegria

The Renaissance School (TRS) enrolls students at the age of 2 in its pre-primary program which is a ''single age'' classroom where children remain until they are socially and developmentally ready to transition into the primary multi-age classroom (typically 3-6 years old). My oldest daughter remained in pre-primary until after she was 3 years old, because she simply needed more time while my youngest daughter transitioned to primary earlier because she was ready. Every child is different and the school takes an individualized approach to learning; many schools say this, but this one walks its talk. I couldn't think of a better place for a slow to warm child to blossom over time and for you as parent to have access to a phenomenal faculty of teachers and learning resources to support in that process. The language (Spanish and French), music, arts, and classroom learning curriculum are phenomenal and integrated with one and other to provide a holistic learning approach. Definitely go on a tour and speak with Leslie Hites the Head of School to learn more. Very satisfied parent at TRS - Ashley

Preschool for shy 2.5-year-old in Contra Costa area

Jan 2005

Hi, We are looking for a recommendation for a pre-school for our 2.5 year old daughter. She is extremely shy and would not talk outside her house (for example, her previous nanny could not draw her into a conversation for over 6 months). Our daughter is being raised in a tri-lingual environment (Russian, Chinese, English). We would ideally like a recommendation of a pre-school which would foster the languages, in El Sobrante, Richmond, Pinole, or Orinda area. Thank you! Olga

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Seeking smaller preschool for shy 3 1/2 year old

November 2003

I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter who is quite shy. When she's warmed-up, she's very talkative and social, but she's usually very withdrawn in new situations, particularly with lots of noise and people. When we go to parks, she's afraid to go on play structures with other kids, and when we are in novel social situations, she'll mainly want to sit on my lap. I had her in a large preschool that was too overwhelming for her, and recently took her out, because she seemed so sad and withdrawn there. I'm looking for a smaller, more managable setting that would work better for a shy child.

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I also have a shy (slow-to-warm)3.5 year old girl and am looking for similar preschool. I am thinking that small class size is one very important feature, but haven't found any that feel right yet. Would love to talk more with you about this, maybe even have a playdate for our shy 3.5 year olds and any others out there. Please email me if this interests you. We live in North Oaklnd/Rockridge area. Feeling like Flypaper Mama

There is a woman whose name is Wviebka (pronounced veeb-ka) Larson and she has a small day care in her home. She is absolutely wonderful. The only glitch, that may be a problem for you, is that she is a waldorf teacher. If that is something you are not interested in, it won't work. If you want more info, please feel free to call me: 848-6138 my name is maryclare

This sounds soooo much like my 3 1/2 y/o daughter. I also looked into small preschools, but decided to stay with the one we are in because she is happy there and having spent a morning with her there, she seemed to be doing OK. I would love to talk to you more and give you the info I found on smaller preschools if you'd like.

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