Couples therapist in Berkeley

I'm hoping to find some therapy and support for my husband and our marriage. He has huge emotional swings where he goes from being terrified to angry to exhausted. Then he has moments of being grateful and feeling like everything is fine. He blames all of his moods and dissatisfaction on his job. He blames having to provide for our daughter as the reason he has to keep his job. In reality, he's employable and could switch jobs easily. We have two incomes. I work full time and contribute to our expenses. I know we need some help. I've asked him about working with a therapist but he dismisses this idea in all sorts of ways, most often by saying he doesn't believe in therapy. I am hoping to find a therapist that we could go to as a couple. I think I could get him to go to therapy as a favor to me. I'm looking for a therapist that would work well with specific issues of fatherhood and career pressures. I think my husband might relate best to an older man as a therapist but that's just a guess. I saw some good recommendations posted here recently for life coaches but I want a trained therapist. Thanks for leads and ideas.