Therapist Advice - Letting Go?
Long story short, when do you end a therapy relationship? Been with mine for almost 20 years (yes, I have likely funded his vacation home, kidding). Lately he just seems checked out. Typical story, I started out a basket case of dysfunction (thanks mom and dad) and have made great strides, and he has been helpful over the years, but still cant 'get over the hump' of stuff I'm working on. (Also, he's way into Freud and of course it all has to do with sex, which really is not speaking to me, I mean, sometimes a banana is just a banana, right?)
Recently had a setback to which he suggested I medicate (sleep meds) when he knows I don't want to go that route, and last session when I talked about being really stressed and anxious he recommended yoga or TM. Really? That's all he's got after knowing me so well? I get that it must be crappy to be my cheerleader for SO LONG as I try to move through stuff....but when I mentioned an upcoming challenge I'll likely decline (due to my explained level of anxiety) he just scoffed and said "ah come on, you have to do it."
Oh yeah, also, he mentioned I should see him more often to 'get through this stuff' (I had been seeing him 2x week for years until I couldn't afford it anymore) and when I said I really couldn't afford that he suggested I 'get a job' (I already work from home for a family business). Of course it wasn't as harsh as it sounds typed out, but I just feel like if you can't help me in one visit a week why do you think you can help me in 2?
I know this stuff is complicated and nuanced, but has anyone been in this position before? If you are a therapist do you have any thoughts about this? I really DO want to move through stuff and I am REALLY RESISTANT I guess, I just feel that maybe there's someone else out there who can help me, maybe I just need a change of scenery, or maybe I'm hopeless in that I really can't/don't want to change.
Any thoughts are very much appreciated - and/or recommendations for a therapist who really helped you get through to a better place after years of 'stuckness.'