Son was rejected by all the private schools we applied to

Hi, I'm trying to work through my feelings and am wondering if this has happened to anyone else this year. My son and husband seem like they've moved on, but I'm still really pissed at what I feel is a bait and switch from the schools, one of which pursued us pretty vigorously. Obviously, my son will still go to school - and there are benefits of public school. He can still see his compatriots from grade school, he'll have more choice of social groups, more activities, more freedom. But there were some pretty relevant reasons we thought the smaller setting of private school would be good for him. I guess it would just help to hear how others have copes.

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I am so sorry. My son was waitlisted for all of the high schools he applied to, even his older brother's and my husband's alma mater. We ended up hounding one of the schools and he eventually got it. It all worked out for the best, but it was very hurtful and stressful at the time. After all of the years feeling that we were in a "community," we realized that private schools are just a business. So we've coped by seeing ourselves as customers and not getting attached or having a false sense of "family."

Our kid got rejected by every private middle school we applied to. She also did not get past "waiting list number10 thousand" on any of the charter school lotteries. I'll be honest, we did the application circus to hedge our bets, but the public middle school she is in was her first choice of school and we knew pretty quick that we'd be more than happy if it was where OUSD assigned her.  I'm so glad we dodged the decision bullet by not getting into any other school !!  She is halfway through 7th grade and OUSD public middle school is the best ever. The school leadership and teachers are really fantastic, the school community is warm, the academic education is high quality, the music program is excellent, there are plenty of after-school extracurricular activities from sports to really nerdy things like a small but active Latin Club. She comes home every damn day chattering about school, is always happy to return each morning, and glad to get back after vacations. She's at Edna Brewer.