Just read a NYT article called- Turn Your Demanding Child into a Productive Coworker.. the author writes about cultures that raise exceptionally cooperative and self-sufficient kids. Cultures where adults don’t play w kids or instruct them on what to do and how to do it..
I’m fascinated by the idea that I did myself a disservice by almost exclusively doing kid stuff w my children when they were young. I should have left them to play on their own, or shadow me doing housework! Instead, I frantically tried to do it all in the margins, feeling guilty for cleaning the kitchen.
It was a given when my kids were younger that we we should play w them and engage with them every minute. I remember my parents being completely puzzled by this approach! I also remember numerous park visits watching over-zealous parents trying to outdo each other being amazing! Fun! Silly! playmates. (Maybe sometime it was me!?)
And now my wonderful, older children need SO much attention and r helpless around the house... and I feel like a servant! I get mad at them for not helping but it’s my own fault.
Im trying to undo some damage now, but it’s tough at this age and I’m kicking myself. Wondering what others think, have u turned it around w a 14yr old? Thanks in advance!