Rule against sweets-- Wise?
A friend restricts her 11-year old daughter's access to sweets, like a hawk she restricts. The child isn't diabetic, doesn't have a health challenge made worse by sugar, etc. Of course the mother does this out of concern: there's entirely too much sugar in our diets, and it can cause health problems as one ages. ! BUT it seems the child has developed unhealthy behavior around this restriction that was put into place about 3 years ago.
Recently, the family visited a mutual friend (call her "B") who lives out of state. B told me that the sweet-restricted child would pocket all the packets of sugar she could "swipe" when they'd eat in a restaurant (she'd do so when the mother wasn't looking). Later, as they walked to their car, the daughter would show my friend B what she'd swiped.
When my daughters were younger I restricted TV watching, online activity, etc. It backfired. Now that I've backed off, things are easier between them and me. What are parents doing regarding sugar intake, for example? Thanks for your thoughtful input-- that's all I've ever received from this amazing BPN group.