Relative’s toddler- concerns he might have autism
My husband’s niece has a 3 year old son who, in our opinion ( we have 4 adult children) is not developing in a typical manner. We are not doctors but we are seriously concerned the child has some form of autism. ( does not speak much, no eye contact, arm flapping, angry face most of the time, won’t nap ever, overtired and rarely seems content in his skin….) The concern is that the parents (mother is loving, father an alcoholic, seemingly unhappy home life, very cramped living quarters, parents young and uneducated ) don’t seem to notice. The child does not go to any sort of group activity nor has he ever had a babysitter or been in a play group or preK. They are quite isolated so I don’t think they have other toddlers with whom to compare development. When they do venture out the child is incredibly difficult so I can see why they may not get out much. They lose their temper with him and we have seen them smack the child in plain view. We have read that early intervention is best for autism or autism spectrum and we are concerned they are missing out on this. It’s such a delicate matter and this is a family who does not discuss difficult topics with ease. Does anyone have advice on course of action? So far we are just hoping that their pediatrician notices or perhaps when The child starts public school the teacher might notice but that is still two years away.
please respond with kindness and not judgment as our sole aim is to be helpful.