Rehoming a cat

I never thought I’d be writing this but I think I need to rehome a cat. I have a 12 year old cat who I’ve had since she was a kitten and is pretty much the love of my life, but she’s old and while she is very tolerant of my kids, she isn’t too thrilled with the attention they give her. So a year ago I decided it was time to get a second cat, a younger one that was smaller so the kids could pick her up and had lots of energy, and who could take the attention off my older cat. I found a kitten that had lived with a 6 year old who dressed her up in doll clothes and was good with kids. When I brought her home my old kitty was not happy but she had lived temporarily with other cats before and always ended up getting along with them so I thought if I did the slow transition and followed all the advice things would resolve.

A year in, she and the kitten, who is a young adult now, still don’t get along. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Multiple sprays for the rooms, keeping them as separate as possible, slow transition, I even hired a cat behaviorist and followed all of her advice and nothing has worked. The new cat still attacks my old cat, which is causing my old cat a lot of stress. As a result, I have not bonded with the new cat, and my 3 and 5 year old really don’t give her as much attention as I expected them to so I feel like she’s just not a good fit and I don’t think it’s fair to my old cat to keep her around.

I’ve never had to rehome an animal so I don’t know how to go about doing this responsibly. The new cat really isn’t a bad cat. She loves attention and wishes I would give her more, she is really good with the kids (lets them pick her up and play with her and never bites them), and I think she would get along well with another cat that wasn’t as old as my cat and maybe a little less docile. How does one go about rehoming a cat when they don’t have friends or relatives that can take her?

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No advice but I’m in a similar boat— my fiancé and I just had a baby and his cat is very aggressive. He’s tried to attack the baby already and has scratched our friend’s toddler on the forehead. He’s a nice cat to humans, but just wayyy too dominant and aggressive. 

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We had the exact same thing happen except that our older cat (who was 4 at the time) was the less friendly cat and we decided to keep the new cat. Even after 4 years we were able to take the older cat back to the shelter we got her from, albeit with lots of guilt tripping from the shelter. If you got your newer cat from a shelter, I'd give that a shot as she sounds very re-homeable.

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I'm planning on going to the Berkeley Humane Society this weekend in search of a cat who does well with kids. If you haven't yet found a home for the new cat, maybe I could take her. You can DM me if you're interested!

I don't know which organizations take in pets that need to be rehomed, but start with contacting the humane society. You can ask around at work, in case someone is interested. If you deal with an individual, ask for a rehoming fee of $50-$100 then donate it to a shelter. This is to insure that they want a pet and can afford food, etc. Ask the potential new family about their home, other pets, whether they know how to care for a pet, etc until you feel comfortable that they will be a loving family.

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Maybe the younger cat needs more personal space? If rehoming is not successful, I wonder if the younger cat would be more satisfied as an indoor/outdoor cat?