Questioning choice of mostly white preschool
We enrolled our child in preschool this past January. We have an active kid, so we prioritized a school with a lot of free play and a lot of outdoor time. We noted when we visited that the teachers and students were nearly all white (our family is white as well), but we decided that the benefits of the school for our particular kid outweighed the homogeneity. At the time, we felt like we could make sure they interacted with lots of others from diverse backgrounds on playdates, at playgrounds, in activities around the Bay Area & trips to other cities, etc. School would be just one part of their life.
Fast-forward a few months and we're back at the same school, but with none of those other outlets available. It now feels like the white community we chose is the only one we have access to, and I'm feeling increasingly cringy and ashamed about that choice — my kid growing up in an all-white environment does not reflect my values. I also haven't seen any evidence that the school is engaging or grappling with this issue, even in light of the protests over the spring and summer and the subsequent reckoning and self-reflection many organizations have begun. I've been actively trying to do this reflection myself, which is part of why I'm writing now.
What should we do? Should we move our kid to another school, disruptive and challenging as that might be? Should we press school administrators about why the program seems so segregated, and push for them to make changes that will make it more welcoming and accessible? Should we just wait it out and redouble our efforts to make new friends and build diverse community after COVID finally passes? I want to make a choice that pushes all of us to do better, and I'm not afraid to feel some discomfort in service of that goal.