Post Pandemic Pre-school, socialization and behavioral challenges
I am a UC Berkeley Student parent with a 3-year-old in the ECEP pre-k program. We started school one month ago as the first time social experience. My son is bilingual and speech delayed. He has a good vocabulary in both languages. Yet, he uses only short phrases, single words, and repetitive phrases and paragraphs from familiar books, cartoons, or personal experiences he had before. The school is pressing me to request and provide them an IEP plan from day one, claiming that my child is not following general directions, rules, and commands. They have zero compassion and or personal approach to help my child with the transitional challenges and his difficulties to adjust to the new environment.
As a student, I was highly dependant on this program as I started in-person classes and was hoping to have the school for weekday occupation for him. I have zero experience with the US school system as I moved to the US a few years ago. I know that something is wrong with this place but don't know how to fight and stand for my child, as they should not compare the children and try to meet his needs, provide him a safe space and help him grow. It feels like their priority is to follow their protocols rather than to understand my son's specific difficulties during his transition and meeting his needs. I would appreciate any thoughts, tips, and advice, as well as local Speech Therapy and SLP that you had a great experience with. I do not want to jump with decisions and go through assessments without creating a social environment for him and seeing if he gets better with socialization. He does not show interest in playing with kids his age yet wants to play with older kids. We do not have any extended family and friends. I would appreciate knowing if there are any playdates or special activities near me, where we can have some social interaction with other kiddos. In UC village, I noticed people prefer to interact within small groups based on their specific cultures. Thank you so much for your contribution and advice.