Parenting Coach for disagreement between parents

My partner and I have reached a parenting impasse that has only gotten more difficult as our kids get older (they’re 5 and 7). Specifically in terms of agreeing on how to discipline/dole out consequences in a consistent way without relying on threats and bribery. We would love recommendations for a parenting coach/counselor who can help us get on the same page. 

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Check out The Center for Children and Youth at Jewish Family and Children's Services. They have some experienced parent coaches and child therapists. I would specifically recommend Ellie Pelc, but others are great too.

https://ccy.jfcs.org/services-for-families/parents-place/consultations-…

Hi there, I hear you. I’m in the same boat, with similarly aged kids, who also happen to be AT each other constantly these days. It’s so trying.  But: my wife and I have been working with Melissa Saunders, and have found her to be a real help. She is compassionate, knowledgeable, caring, and gives concrete suggestions for us to try. Not everything works but a lot of it has really helped both of us to rethink and pause when we are responding to various parenting challenges. She’s at melissasaunders.com. 

I've worked with Robin Einzig, who runs Visible Child. She's wonderful, and does virtual sessions, as she's located on the East Coast. 

This book/blog/podcast has been hugely helpful for me: https://www.goodinside.com

I have 2 boys, now 15 and 11. I worked with Marcilie Smith Boyle when my kids were younger and starting to become more challenging to parent. She teaches Positive Discipline Classes which were fantastic. Can't recommend her highly enough! Check out her parenting classes and coaching services at https://workingparenting.com/classes-workshops/

I recommend Rebecah Freeling of Wits' End Parenting. My husband and I just finished an 8-week session with Rebecah to help us parent our 3.5 year old. We were at the point where I needed to take drives at the end of the night because I was so frustrated and didn't know what to do. I was upset by my child's behavior and my own. My husband has read all of the books about modern, empathy-based parenting. I felt that we needed more boundary setting and consequences, but I didn't know how to do that and feel good. After learning about our son and family, Rebecah gave us very specific things to say and do to rein in my son's behavior and to make our interactions during difficulties cut and dry. Rebecah then had us build into family collaboration. We are still early, but I can see we're building a virtuous cycle. Overall, I gained tailored advice that has gotten us more collaboration, less yelling, and I feel confident in my parenting.

I have been taking a parenting course with Sarah Rosensweet: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com/. She coaches on peaceful parenting methods, based on Laura Markham's work (whose books I recommend too!), which do not use punishment but instead focus on connection, emotional regulation (for yourself and your kids), and setting and maintaining limits without bribes or threats. She has some different options, we did her 12 week course that comes with weekly live Q&A, and you can also add private sessions. She has a podcast if you want to check out her style and philosophy. She's not local and her course is all online.

I I highly recommend Amy Karanfilian! My partner and I reached out because we were experiencing many challenges with our 4-year-old, especially after the arrival of his baby sister. The morning routine was fraught with many big feelings, power struggles, tantrums, and frustration. We met virtually with Amy, and she created a "custom plan" tailored to our son to reset our morning routine. We just completed our 4-session virtual package, and not only is the morning routine feeling so much better and more connective, but we're also using the tools and applying them to other parts of the day (like bedtime). 

Our care plan came with parent scripts for us and visual charts for our son, making it super easy to teach and get him on board. It's been an empowering experience, and Amy is compassionate, supportive, and fun to work with. I'm sure we'll be back in the future! She offers a free 30-minute call to see if it's a good mutual fit. Definitely worth checking out! Best of luck! www.amykaranfilian.com