Need new job but worried abt work-life balance
My partner and I have come to the conclusion that he needs to look for a new job. He's a software developer. To put it bluntly, he hates his job, has for some time, and it's now affecting his mental and physical health as well as our family's overall wellbeing. The additional stressors of COVID/quarantine have just brought the situation to a head.
The only reason he's stayed with this company so long is that the job has been, frankly, pretty great for a family w/small kids (we have a preschooler + toddler), especially compared to stories we've heard from other 'tech families.' Physical office is in Alameda County instead of the city or South Bay (we live in Richmond); he's been with them long enough to have accrued a lot of flexibility about telecommuting, kids' events, etc. even before COVID, and a lot of vacation time (more than a month annually). We know that any new job would torpedo some of those perks, but he's been paralyzed for a long time by the fear that his choice is a) continue with this soul-sucking lousy job or b) basically give up on seeing our kids during the week.
How do other tech workers out there make this work with young kids? We usually have dinner at 5 and kids are asleep by 7. We know that wouldn't be possible if Dad were commuting from the city every day. Is there some magic option out there that would allow us to salvage both our family life and our health/sanity? Any suggestions welcome <3.