Mom being asked by son not to come watch his sporting events
My teenage son has asked me not to come watch his sporting (varsity) events. He's not asking me not to volunteer (for snacks, parent duties, driving) but literally not to come sit in the stands and watch silently (no, I'm not one of those moms who screams and yells). When I asked him why he said it made him feel like a little kid with him mommy there and didn't want me involved in any way. When I told him I would be the only parent on the team not there, he said he didn't care. When I told him how painful it was to be asked to do this and how much it hurt me, he didn't really care and again asked for me to respect his wishes. I have three kids and despite being a working mom, have been supportive of all their activities over the years volunteering for some, watching most, driving them to all practice/rehearsals paying for needed supplies, etc. I understand his desire for independence but this just feels really harsh to me.
Obviously I'm having a very hard time with this and its compounded by the fact that my husband thinks we should respect his wishes (he rarely went anyway.) I asked if his wishes included sleeping in a tent in the park or only eating candy and ice cream should we respect his wishes, but that didn't go well.
Looking for a reality check (reasonable request for a teen to not to want mom to sit in stands ever?) or advice how to be ok with his request since clearly I am not. Thanks.