20 year old's marijuana addiction
Hi, my child is no longer a child as he's now 20. That said, he is nowhere near being mature and I know he's smoking weed. Actually, I think he's smoking "blunts" which I think are cigars with marijuana, so the outside of it is all tobacco leaves and marijuana is inside. He's doing worse in his classes and keeps talking about dropping out of college, often is so tired that goes to bed by 8 pm and is often acting aggressively (tries to wrestle and do a "take down") with me and other family members all the while saying he's "playing" and "having fun" with us even when we tell him to stop many times over. My husband and I talk to him about this every day and asking him to stop, but he doesn't listen.
It's the pandemic and life is hard for everyone, but I just can't deal with this anymore. Is there a way to get someone like that to stop??? He's gone through a program for substance abuse at Kaiser when he was in high school and stopped for a couple of months then, and then twice again (right before college and again just a couple of months ago). But now, he doesn't even want to talk about stopping. He promised to use less, but I am not seeing that happening either.
Any ideas? Treatment? Again, with COVID I don't know if sending him to a treatment center is possible, and even if it were, he is unlikely to agree to it and we can't quite make him since he's 20 years old.
Feeling helpless and sad