Looking for therapist while considering separation
I am considering leaving my husband. I would like to see a therapist individually and perhaps bring my husband in for couples therapy as well. I know that regardless of our marital status we have a young child we need to coparent. I feel that many of the issues that are causing me to want to leave will later affect our child and our ability to coparent (lack of accountability, impulsiveness, meanness, etc). I am hoping to find someone who can help me/ us navigate how we can get to the best place for our child. Ideally someone who isn't set on us either working it out or separating but someone who will help us figure out which path is best.
Part of me still has a fantasy that things will work out. But odds are they won't. Partner has historically not believed in therapy but has gone when I have forced the issue. I am doubtful that he is willing to do the work. But I am hopeful to find someone who can perhaps give him some perspective on how his actions will affect his child.
Or at least I would like to talk to someone who can help me find ways for us to move forward as coparents without constantly having the same fights we are currently having.
We have kaiser and their mental health is slow and awful. Ideally looking for someone who isn't terribly expensive outside of Kaiser.
I haven't worked in years. Get insurance through my husband. Have no idea what I will do for work. Hate the idea of missing so much of my child's life if we split custody. I would want to make it work if I thought it was workable but right now I do not. Has anyone been this far gone and worked it out? Any advise or things to consider? I know separating / divorce will cause a whole new set of stressors and am trying to weigh everything.
Lastly, if anyone has a divorce lawyer they recommend. I have one very specific question I would like to get answered before I make a decision. Hopefully a very quick consult could get me an answer regarding property and long terms marriage.