Kid not into college,trying not to compare
My sweet, bright high school son is a medium achiever and not a club starter, not an athlete, not a musician, not interested in AP classes, and not too interested in college. He likes video games and has two friends. He does the bare minimum to earn Cs in school. He’s not depressed, just….chill. We’re a pretty happy family though. The pandemic made him disengage from school even more. But I’m in a social group where many parents are sending their kids off to Ivy League, the UC system, or play water polo etc and that’s not happening for us. The pressure gets intense at times, with conversations about test scores, GPAs, admission status, applications, trips to colleges all over the US, etc.As a mom, I feel frustrated and angry. Not at my son, although there’s some frustration there, but mostly at the other parents who and talk and talk and brag and are so very invested in the status and academics of their children. Maybe I’m jealous, I very willingly admit that’s a possibility. But I also feel frustrated that one of the only measures of success for young people is through college. I wish people talked more about medium scoring children, or kids who are disengaged from school, or other routes to success besides Yale, Harvard, or UCB. Anyone else have this experience?