Judgmental therapists in the family?
This may be mere coincidence, or leaning too much on anecdote, but I have a question about therapists: Both a family member and a close friend--two very intelligent, charming, energetic people, with some experience of depression, for what that's worth--eventually became therapists. My question is whether others with a therapist in the friends-and-family circle have noticed that therapist's becoming ever more judgmental, offering unsolicited advice or opinions, and jumping to conclusions about others' intentions, even in the smallest matters. Both my friend and my relative had internship training with quite difficult clients, then went on to successful private practices, and are both now middle-aged. Both are very conscientious about their work, and I wonder whether either has really learned to let go of the therapeutic role: for example, to not treat a flippant sentence in a text or e-mail about a mundane topic as if it were the crux of a client's issue. ("What was the purpose of that observation? Did you intend your tone to express such negativity?")
Anyway, I often have that walking-on-eggshells sensation around the relative, and some with my friend as well; I feel rather like a parent being patient with a teenager who's acting out. Maybe they just forget who they're speaking to, and slip into clinician mode. Or perhaps it's simply these two individuals and my relationship with them, and nothing to do with their occupation. Both live at a distance and lead busy lives, so it's not easy to talk about any of this in person.
Any thoughts, observations? (Please, not judgmental ones!) Having said all that, I truly don't mean to bash therapy or therapists, two of whom helped me a great deal.