Inherited money - keep a secret from BFF?
I inherited money. Lots of it. It was unexpected. My immediate family wasn’t all that rich but my extended family was.
How much you ask? Enough to buy a really nice house in Berkeley and fund college education and retirement. We have a tiny place, we are behind on retirement, and didn’t expect to contribute to kids education. So yeah that’s all great.
My question is this. My best friend. I haven’t told her how much. I haven’t told anyone really. But it will all become rather clear as we upgrade our lifestyle.
This makes me feel weird, and distant from the friend I share innermost thoughts with. She’s had financial and personal set backs due to Great Recession and divorce. She’s doing well but will probably not ever buy a house in the Bay Area. She’s had a ton of crap happen in the last ten years. I feel weird not telling her details. And I’d feel weird telling her details. What if she’s jealous? What if by telling her our relationship changes? What if she tells other people? What if what if.
Any thoughts about this? Experiences related to sharing money details to people?
Thank you for your advice!