I don't feel safe having my husband's 6yo son around
Gonna try to make this short. My husband and I have an 18 month old daughter. He has a 6 year old son from a previous marriage who lives on the East Coast. His ex wife has an exhausting number of issues (her home is being foreclosed upon but she refuses to leave, she's an animal hoarder breeding puppies as well as having chickens cats and other dogs in the mess of a home, has a drinking/substance abuse problem, I could go on and on). His son, understandably, has severe behavioral issues - no doubt due to the lack of stability and attention he receives from his mom (she has strangers living there to help her pay bills, allows his son to watch the iPad all day on the weekends/no playdates, spends all of her energy on the animals, I could go on). He's constantly in trouble for acting out at school, has abused the animals and recently pulled scissors on his mom threatening to hurt her. He is supposed to spend a month with us in the Summer and I have major concerns about him being around our daughter, whom he's already expressed jealousy and resentment towards. I've brought it up to my husband who says he acts differently around him since there is discipline and his behavior won't be an issue. Any advice from anyone in a similar situation or recommendations as to how to bring this up more forcefully without making my husband defensive?