Husband wants "City Life" with Kids
Hi there - my husband and I moved from DC a year ago with our 2 kids (ages 4 and 2) to the Bay Area (where I am from), and although I am really happy to be living in Berkeley, my husband is hating "suburban" life and desperately wants to move to SF (though he potentially wants our kids to continue to go to school in the East Bay). His job is in downtown SF (he prefers to work from the office), and he can easily BART into the city. My job is also in downtown SF, but I can work remotely on most days. My husband misses the "good ol' days" in DC, where he walked to work. My husband is unfamiliar with the area, so I keep trying to tell him that living in SF isn't kid-friendly really (or at least, not as much as Berkeley). He really likes Mission Bay. He thinks it's possible for us to commute out of SF to drop off our kids and then commute back into the city (I told him that this would almost double our commuting time). I told him if he genuinely needs to live the "city life" to be happy, then he needs to look for really good schools within SF - but again, I don't think he realizes the difficulty of commuting WITHIN SF. My husband is of the mind that we shouldn't change our lives because of our kids; I on the other hand thoroughly enjoy having kids and being a "mom" and I love living here and doing activities that are centered around the kids.
In DC, city life is super easy because the city is very small - but I didn't know a single person with two kids (that were over 5) living in DC. Most people moved to Virginia and Maryland. In fact, in all my years in DC, I don't think I ever saw an middle-schooler or high schooler. I have repeatedly tried to tell my husband that this is simply another stage in life he should try to accept.
My questions are -- (1) does anyone else have a husband that just doesn't want suburban life, and if so, what happened, did it get better?, and (2) is it practical to live in the city with two kids? (3) And is it practical if you want your kids to go to school in the East Bay?