Help for an obese 10 year old girl
My 10 year old has always been on the heavier side, but she is putting on weight rapidly and is starting to feel badly about herself. Her older sisters are all slim and didn't seem to do anything different than she does- same diet, same activity level at her age... She just seems to hold onto weight and is now considered "obese" medically. It seems so unfair. If anything, she eats healthier than the other kids- she won't even have a soda (doesn't like carbonation) when the other kids are happy to indulge when the rare opportunity arises. There is nothing medically wrong- and we are active, healthy people/ educated about nutrition (not eating processed foods, etc.) I am so bummed out to see her sit in the car at the beach and drape herself in large, heavy clothes on a hot day. I don't know exactly what to do. She already has a healthy lifestyle and is a great kid. She is just big (and now getting sadder by the day). I don't want to put on her some "diet track" that is likely to fail and just make her feel worse. I work in healthcare, and I feel like a lot of people in my profession judge and blame heavy people. Even her doctor seems to assume she overeats and doesn't exercise. That isn't the case. She plays soccer- walks to school and jumps on the trampoline just like everyone else. She doesn't have access to money/ food for secret snacking, etc.. It just doesn't add up. I loved the TV show Shrill - and wish there was more media out there with happy people of all sizes. Shrill isn't age- appropriate... I have happy, overweight friends whom she knows. As an average weight person myself, I feel so helpless. I need advice about how to help her feel good about herself. Are there therapists locally who might be good in this situation? Should I be starting some restrictive diet plan?