Dynamics of working with a nanny
I am really curious to hear what people's experiences have been starting off with a new nanny. We started a nanny share last week with two 6 month olds. I met the other family on BPN and we interviewed nannies together. Our current nanny was the best candidate in our minds and her references had wonderful things to say about her, her work ethic, rapport with kids, etc. She has a background in childhood education, fairly extensive work experience caring for kids in various settings. Fast forward one week, I'm feeling less than confident about her ability to watch two infants in our home. Admittedly, I may have been expecting a super nanny so I have dialed back my expectations, but how have you handled the adjustment/ transition period? Do you walk your nanny through everything that you typically do with your baby? More than once? I know it's a lot to walk into a new work situation where everything, including all players, is new. I'm frankly surprised that our nanny doesn't seem to anticipate the needs of the babies and time things accordingly. I find I need to prompt her to consider whether the babies are hungry or tired or something else when they are crying. The reason I opted for a nanny vs daycare is so the babies get individualized care and aren't pushed to be on the same schedule as every other kid. Of course it helps and makes things easier when there is a schedule but particularly in the beginning, I believe activities should be baby-led, meaning the nanny clues in to the baby's specifics. Easier said than done with two infants and this is my first time working w/ a nanny. So my questions to parents are:
How hands on are you with your baby (stepping in and "rescuing" when baby escalates)? How much do you supervise the care vs sitting back and watch it happen? What's a reasonable amount of time to allow for nanny's and babies' adjustment period? Do you offer constant feedback to nanny as a way to help her get to know my baby's needs? What are the clear signs to you that it's time to reevaluate the situation?