Divorcing with kids - do I move closer to family?
I am getting divorced and have two little kids (under 4) and am trying to think through what I want my life to look like and where I’d ideally like to live. I love it up here but none of my family lives in the Bay Area - they all live in So Cal. I could make the move work - my job would support it, it'd be financially better, and I’d have so much support from family and friends. But I am grappling with whether or not it’d good for the kids to move them away from their father. (I don’t know yet if he’d support this but I have a feeling he might.) If I stay, he wants to coparent with me and help me, but he’s in a relationship with a woman whom he had an affair with which is why we’re divorcing. So it’s going to be very hard and painful for me to stay, especially since he’s the only one I can “rely” on up here for help with kids or around the house. I’m so conflicted and feel so much guilt and want to do right by the kids but also need to solve for my sanity and healing. Thoughts?