Couples counselor that understands women's needs.
Hello. I am looking for a couples counselor that is not afraid to challenge a man (my partner). I have noticed that many counselors try so hard to make the man comfortable in therapy that they don't challenge him, and even only address his concerns, and not the woman's. During our last therapy, my partner acted very calm (not at home) and I tended to do the opposite, finally hoping to be heard. At home, almost walking on eggshells so that he won't stonewall me, I speak calmly. When we were in therapy I would desperately try to be understood by our therapist who ended up treating me like I was too 'emotional', and would believe my partner was calm and collected. So, I ended up often getting invalidated while the therapist took my partner seriously. I need a counselor that is acquainted with these roles and can see through them. I'm looking for a therapist that won't invalidate me as emotional, and focus on that, and give a free pass to my seemingly 'rational' partner. In our therapy I ended up feeling very disempowered while my partner felt heard and justified by the therapist. I guess I'm looking for a couples counselor that is aware of sexism in therapy, and knows how to avoid that.