Compelling 18 year old to do chores
Like many others, my 18 year old is taking his freshman college classes at home. He has the same household jobs that he had in high school and he still resists doing them. It’s hard to know what’s normal as our younger son hates being reminded and gets his jobs done with no fuss. We’ve talked to the older one about how we’re trying to treat him like an adult and we’d like him to do things without being asked. He always keeps his room clean and does his laundry but these are things that we could care less about because if left undone, they only impact him. We’ve suggested that he set reminders on his phone to do chores and he suddenly loses all his tech savvy and can’t get it to work. We’ve talked about the cost of his phone, car insurance, etc and he gets hurt because he thinks we’re trying to kick him out while we’re just trying to explain his duties as a household member. He’s a good kid and is responsible for schoolwork but the rest is a struggle. How are you parents of adult teens doing it?