Psychiatrist for tween girl in crisis and advice/support for mom
My daughter has some issues that have escalated recently. Although she has a therapist we recently had a crisis appointment with a cognitive behavioral psychiatrist and she responded very well to the direct and concrete approach. Her therapist is great but really focuses more on younger kids and I think my daughter has outgrown her. My daughter is struggling with abandonment issues as an adopted child, emotional regulation difficulties particularly with anger, has some learning differences (and a moderate 504 plan though she’s doing well in school now) and has recently talked of self harm and suicide (hence the crisis intervention). Given the timing of her most difficult times there is definitely a hormonal component but before treating her for that her doctor recommends an evaluation and treatment plan from a psychiatrist to treat her more holisticly rather than just symptom by symptom. Which I wholeheartedly agree with. So now I need the psychiatrist. We have Kaiser and because she’s from foster care she also has MediCal. While of course a covered doctor is ideal, we’re mostly interested in getting her the best care possible and I have family who can likely help with the cost. We’re in North Berkeley.
Her issues are private struggles at home—her school, friends and after school programs would be shocked to know of what happens at home sometimes. So I feel we are at a good point to get her help before things spiral more out of control. I am a solo mom with a long term, live out boyfriend who is incredibly supportive of both me and my daughter. And I have my own therapist so I can focus on my daughter during her sessions. Even with all this support, and everyone telling me I am doing everything right it is so hard and so scary to see my little girl suffer so much and to carry this emotional baggage. So even if you don’t have a recommendation—any encouragement, words of wisdom and especially thoughts from those who have made it to the other side are appreciated.