Coach/advisor on merging finances in blended family.
My partner and I are inching towards merging our finances in our blended family with three children between us. Questions abound, like: do I pay my alimony and child support out of my own income, separate from hers, and separate from any joint bank account we have? Do I take on obligation to help her pay her student debt? Do we simply through all of our money into one big pot (a joint account) and use that to take care of all expenses for all five of us, regardless of source or history?
These are the sort of things we're wrestling with, and I imagine there is some class of finance professional out there who can help answer them. I'm not asking for 'financial planning' (how much to save each month today for retirement!) but for someone to articulate some different strategies and considerations for merging our finances.
It may be a "financial advisor" but what we want is someone to sit with us, understand the nuances of our situation, and make some suggestions, possibly multiple options, for establishing our joint finances.