Co-rooming with 4 year old and newborn?
I would love to see what other parents have done in this situation (even though it's still theoretical for our family at this point). I am due with my second child in about a month and my daughter will be almost 4 at that time. Our current sleeping arrangement is that she sleeps in a toddler bed next to our bed. This suits our family great as we love being together but I was never able to co-bed successfully and get much personal comfort or sleep. When our new baby arrives we plan to have him in a small in-bed co-sleeper at least for the first few months. We keep a noise machine on throughout the night in the bedroom but I am concerned for my daughter's sleep quality with the baby waking up multiple times. We have talked about my husband and daughter sleeping in a different room but that would be a last resort for us. A couple of months ago we tried to transition her to her own bedroom but felt that we didn't want to pressure her or make it a traumatic thing (I have terrible sleep issues from my own childhood and a lot of fearful experiences surrounding bedtime). She would start in her room and stay about 10-15 minutes max and then say she was ready to come sleep in our room and that she "will be ready to sleep in my own room when I'm 5 years old." We didn't force the issue and are fine with her in our room. Without knowing anything about this new baby's sleeping habits until he arrives, is there anything I can do to prep for this? Has anyone successfully co-roomed with a preschool-aged child and newborn without the older child's sleep suffering? I would say she's a moderately heavy sleeper. She doesn't wake up if my husband and I are talking in a normal voice (again, we do have a noise machine on near her bed) or normal noises around the room with us up and down at different times and through the night. I know every family/parent/child is different and we all have to find what suits us best. Just looking for some thoughts from people who have navigated this new transition before. Thank you!