co-parent moving to Pasadena
Has anyone made long-distance co-parenting work? My ex and I have been doing a great job co-parenting our 8 and 10yo boys, and it really helps that we live just down the road from each other. He kept the house we bought together. He also owns a house in Altadena he bought before we were married, and he has always wanted to go back (he rents it out). Now he wants to move to Pasadena to accept his dream job at JPL, but my dream job - not to mention the kids’ school and friends and my community of friends - are all here in Berkeley. He wants me to move down there too so our family can be together. But I don’t want to do that! I can’t imagine how this will all work out. If he’s flying back and forth, where will he stay when he comes to Berkeley? Put a tiny house in the backyard and rent out the house? What about in Altadena? Build a back house there and rent out the main house? This all sounds way too expensive and complicated! And the cost of air fare! And not having him be a regular part of their lives, and someone to help me out when I need it or when I’m working in the evenings or long hours on a big project. (We have no family here to help.) Do you have any stories of how this has worked for you, or any advice for me? Thank you!