Chronically unemployed husband - WWYD?
I’m at my wit’s end with my husband. Of the 13 years that we’ve been married, he’s held about 15 jobs. He’s been sporadically employed. Most recently, he left a private sector job he held for about 15 months for a government job from which he was let go during probation. It’s been 8 months since he held that job; he is currently unemployed. Thank goodness I am working a stable job with good benefits, but the Bay Area being what it is, I don’t think it is sustainable to live on one income alone. Anything beyond the basics (food, mortgage, etc.) goes on the credit card. I’m racking up intolerable levels of debt. We have gone to counseling but that has resulted in him getting angry at me for raising the concern that there is a pattern to his unemployment. Neither of us is perfect, but I have a strong hunch that it is not bad luck but poor job and interpersonal skills that plague him. I have tried to talk to him about seeing a pattern in these jobs that he’s lost: there’s a rule he has trouble following, there’s a middle-aged woman who catches him not follow it. Or, there is the boss that’s out to get him and deliberately makes his life hell. He has said that it is hard to get a job in his field. Part of me believes this because he may have burned so many bridges that he’s radioactive to a potential employer; another part of me doesn’t buy it because I have heard that employers are having a hard time finding workers. I would definitely like a divorce. We have a middle school-aged child and own our home. What do you think? What would you do?