Christmas tree for secular family with Jewish heritage?
I’d love for our family to pick out a real Christmas tree each year, bring it home, decorate it with the littles, and just have the magic of the scene, but my husband is afraid it will hurt his Orthodox Jewish parents. My family isn’t religious and I don’t believe in God (and neither does my husband), so the holidays for us are simply a time of family togetherness and enjoying special scenes around town. Each year we throw a fun Christma-Hannu-Kwanzika party- a mish mash of music food and white elephant fun. There’s no religious element. One year we did pick out and decorate a tree with lights and tons of blue and silver Stars of David. We also had tons of snowflakes and menorahs and holiday lights in and outside the house. I love decorating for the seasons and especially love the pretty lights of this time of year. Anyway, my in-laws happened to see our tree in the background on Skype. Apparently my mother-in-law cried. My husband says that for them, a tree is a big sign of assimilation. Like, you really are not like where and what you came from. I don’t want to hurt them, yet I’m still yearning for a tree. Anyone relate?