Better to Move Schools in 5th or 6th Grade?
Possibly not hypothetical question: We are starting to consider a move to a community about 30 minutes away. It would be a change of schools for both kids. The older one would be joining at either 7th or 8th grade, socially difficult either way but presumably not a lot of difference between the two grades, at a middle school that starts at 6th. The younger one would be starting either 5th (last year of elementary school) or 6th (first year of middle school). The middle school combines 3-4 elementary schools, so there's a lot of mixing at that time, but she'd be going in cold, knowing nobody in a school of 1000 kids, and that sounds like a very lonely way to start. Perhaps it would be better to try to push up the move so she gets to start cold in a class of 30 for a year? It's virtually impossible for me and my husband to gauge this, as we haven't moved as a family and neither of us grew up moving across school districts. To complicate things, the younger child is pretty shy, and will certainly struggle during the transition no matter what. I'd appreciate any thoughts from parents whose kids have been through this.