Is this appropriate for a mother to say "Don't play with that kid"
My son AA tells me about his "mean friend" (BB) who threatens him with "I won't be your friend anymore if you don't...(usually it is only over a toy). But this friend reduces him to tears by telling him that AA's best friend doesn't like him anymore, and prefers to be with BB (which is also a lie in addition to being mean). They tease a mutual friend together and makes this friend cry (this is not what my son would ever do, w/o BB around). After my son accidentally hit him with a frisbee last week, he hit AA more than 9 times in the face. My son told teachers and friends that he fell down instead!
I don't think this is a healthy friendship and do not think BB is a kind friend. I've been telling my son not to play with BB at recess, and wonder if this is inappropriate for a grown-up to do. I worry that I am being a helicopter mom, that I'm intervening too much. And it is difficult for other kids and parents to hear that ""AA's mom told him not to play with BB"
But the alternative is to let my son continue to follow him around like a puppy when the friend is so unkind. We will start karate lessons and playgroups to learn how to navigate friendships. But what do I do now?