Advice re non-binary teen
My assigned female at birth child has come out as non-binary and is insisting they want to be more masculine via non-reversible, medical interventions. This child never expressed gender confusion as a child or younger teen, however, they have had severe anxiety, depression, sensory issues, been bullied, had disordered eating and been in therapy from a very young age. They are also super smart, talented, and sensitive. Currently, they are seeing a DBT therapist and are on medication, but we parents are not seeing huge improvements in their mental health and are very concerned about their desire to alter their body so drastically and permanently. The current therapist doesn't have a lot of knowledge of gender issues and DBT doesn't really address the trauma from bullying. I want my child to be happy and love themself and if I truly believed medical interventions would do it, I think I would be supportive. I really don't think my feelings are coming from transphobia but from a deep sense that these interventions won't solve the problem and then my child may feel even worse. There is a lot of pressure to be accepting and that anything else is transphobia. Does anyone have advice for me? Has anyone been through this with their teen? Anyone been through this themself? Is there a super-skilled therapist out there who could work with my complex child without buying into the narrative? Someone who could help them love themself and truly thrive? Thank you for your advice.