3rd grader with very few friends
Seeking advice or words of wisdom in regards to my 3rd grader (8 year old). She has a strong personality- strong likes and dislikes and is very expressive about them (lots of big hugs and at other times stomping & frustration). She is an avid reader. She loves to be outdoors doing non structured activities - she can spend hours playing in the sand at the beach or collecting sticks, organizing them and making up creative stories. During recess she likes to play under a tree with dirt or mud while making up stories and games. Her writing and conversation skills are ok. When she wants to, she will ask lots of questions but isnt always keen on answering questions. Pre pandemic, I got minimal details about school.
My worry is that she doesn't have many friends. She had a little group in preschool and in kinder there was more of the - the whole class to my bday party thing. In second grade, she identified a few friends she enjoyed while at school. If I asked if she wanted to invite someone over for a playdate, the answer was usually no. Pre pandemic we basically never received any invites either. Occasionally I would try to set something up (and still do although more strained that ever). I see girls her age sit in front of the zoom for 30-45 minutes and have a conversation. She is in a reading level group with another kid who is highly conversational and my daughter says a few words when asked. How worried should I be? I do realize some of this is my issue (worried she will feel alone, sad she doesn't have many friends etc). She doesnt seem to mind in the slightest. She does have a younger sister 1.5 years younger and they play for hours together. Our 3rd is 4 so our house is active. When we go places with the family, she interacts with other kids and seems to be happy. She and her sister are really sick of zoom and so if I reach out to friends to have them meet via zoom, she is only half interested and I am feeling like I am forcing it on her. Would you wait until she is ready to make for friends or continue to push the issue or accept her needs actually being met with casual friendships and sisterhood? Prior to the pandemic, she didn't really want to sign up for activities and when she finally agreed to try hip-hop there was only one other little girl in the class (plus her sister). I grew up having a best friend over constantly from kinder to 6th so I am trying to understand how different needs can be in terms of needs for friends. Words of wisdom please. - Worried mama