2nd kid wants to go to different high school than sister
Currently I have a daughter who is a sophmore and will be driving soon going to a high school thats pretty close to our house (round trip under 20 minutes one stop light and no traffic.) I have another daughter in middle school who wants to go to another high school thats on the other side of the city from us about 6 stoplights and much more traffic. I am very much against this since Currently I work at home and delegated to picking up kids from school, there is no way my daughter can walk/ride home and I doubt very serious of car pool situations. I think its rediculous to have two kids go to different high schools, especially if one can drive. Also I try to explain what happens if my work situation changes where I have to go into an office, then I can no longer pickup kids? My younger one has always had difficulties making/keeping friends and says she wants to go to this school to follow her current middle school friends, . Due to her difficulties in making and keeping friends my wife is supporting this. I want to add that this daughter is a little overweight and she has has a lot of teasing from elementary school on. Personally I don't think her current freindships are close and won't last in high school, especially not important enough to cause this much additional stress on our family. I also think she going to the same school as her sister she will a chance to meet kids that have gone to different elementary and middle schools and will definately be able to make friends.
Anyone have similiar situations.
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Before you start planning on having older one drive the younger one, check state law carefully. http://www.scpr.org/news/2014/10/06/47202/teen-driver-faq-what-are-the-…
We had a similar situation with our third and fourth daughters a few years ago. It was a pain, but they wound up going to different schools, but it turned out to be the "right" decision our family. Our daughter did better in school, felt better about herself and got back to a heathy weight. All of our kids have always had a hard time making and keeping friends. (Families move, families beliefs, girls just being uncomfortable at that age. (She said what happened in middle school was just like what happens in the movie "Mean Girls").
The other thing you are not considering is two siblings at the same school can be harmful to second child. Teachers mix them up and we compare you younger daughter to your older daughter. Students do the same and will factor in looks. (This was happening to her in middle school, and she hated it.) In attending a different school from her sister, all of the teacher were different as were the students and eliminated drama of always being compare to her sister.
Not sure logistically if it would work. But emotionally it would be something good to do for your daughter. It also a good way to show you care and value her concerns and feelings. In your situation I would do it for your daughter.