13yo son lying
I know it’s a common ask but I need help with my 13yo son and his lying. He’s been lying for years and I think it’s getting progressively worse. it seems to be to avoid getting in trouble, even though I praise him when he’s honest, I talk to him about the relationship consequences of lying, I’m calm and express my disappointment and hurt when he’s ‘caught’ in a lie, etc. I can’t trust him even to walk the dog because tonight instead of walking the neighborhood he walked to 7-11 and tied the dog up outside (dog is young and can’t yet be left outside alone) - and lied about it until he was ‘caught' (the route he claimed to have walked had been blocked by construction work today.).
He’s seen a therapist before, for several months, not about lying but about poor behavior and effort at school - I though was helpful, my husband did not. I’m considering scheduling sessions with his therapist again, but is it enough? I’ve seen recommendations about Clearwater for assessments and therapy/classes. My concern about that is that he will think even more that there’s something ‘wrong’ with him. But I also don’t want to miss clues that are telling us he needs extra support. And to be even more of a stereotype we found out recently he’s vaping, even though he’s denied emphatically that he had not. I’m totally ok with my teens being teens; they need to mature and explore. But how do I know when it’s beyond 'normal' typical development and whether my son needs extra support?