Housing advice (heading to divorce)
I'm planning to divorce my spouse and am very concerned about if/how I will be able to afford to live on my own. I know I'll have spousal and child support but the math just doesn't add up to enough, given our salaries. Our kids are in Berkeley public schools and their whole lives are here (friends, activities, etc). Where would you advise I look for a nice, safe, affordable 3 BR rental with easy access to public transportation? Thanks in advance for your help - this is so hard.
Jul 21, 2025
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No firsthand experience but it sounds like perhaps this might be a situation where you and spouse could share time in the family home, nesting, where the kids stay put and you and spouse rotate in. You can find a shared housing situation much easier and cheaper I'm sure. Of course many downsides to this option including that you'd both have to agree to it and get along in the shared home during your parenting time there. Maybe it could be an interim plan, agree to do it for a year.
hello - you could look into whether you might qualify for an affordable unit. These are not that prevalent in Berkeley proper, but could be an option if you widen your scope. Otherwise, you may consider a smaller rental size (2BR) which is not ideal, but likely more in your price range. Also look into whether BUSD would allow your kids to remain there if you have to move to a different neighboring city. I know that El Cerrito and other cities further north can offer more affordable rents, while still being safe places to live.