Books about Sibling Rivalry

Archived Q&A and Reviews

Sibling Rivalry -- advice books

June 2005

we are dealing with a version of the same issues parents have faced since parents were invented -- namely, sibling rivalry. our young kids (a boy and a girl) are 3 years apart. they are mostly sweet, good natured, well-mannered and kind and generous with everyone ... except each other. when together, they are often mean and hateful and drive each other (and us) nuts. I'm sure that there are some great books about this, but I don't have a clue as to what they are. Recommendations? -- weary

I can recommend Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish. It has numerous scenarios described as well as step by step role playing to problem solve. Mom with 2 girls

''Siblings without Rivalry'' by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish is a classic. mom

You're right. There are a lot of books about siblings out there. If you don't have twins, then I would recommend starting with Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish's ''Siblings Without Rivalry.'' Parents Place in Marin and San Francisco often have classes by the same name, based upon the book. I think its a really good starting point for how to work with the issue. That's their website. I'm not paid by them...I'm a therapist and parent educator who has found their work really helpful and very useable. Good luck! Michael

No matter how many books I've read on the topic, my favorite remains the old standby ''Siblings Without Rivalry,'' by Faber and Mazlish. DL

The book, Siblings without Rivalry is great. It's by the same authors that wrote How to talk so kids will listen, how to listen so kids will talk, which is by far my most favorite and used parenting book. They are both available everywhere. Mary

Faber and Mazlich have one of the best, classic books on sibling rivalry. Also recommend the Love and Logic folks in Colorado. Check out their over 100 items concerning parenting at You can hear Jim Fay, one of the founders, on a radio program I did January 11 (Parenting Teens with Love and Logic) by signing on to, clicking on ''Full Power Living'' (Tuesdays at 9 a.m.) and scrolling down on the archives to the bottom of the list. He offers some great advice! Ilene

I highly recommend ''Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too'' by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish. Helena